[Grey Matter]

I don't do romance. I do not understand it, and I feel pathetic because of it. I have been lucky and have a friend who feels the same way. We decided to form a platonic relationship. There is cuddling, hand holding, etc, but never that looming feeling of "what's next". We were best friends first, and will remain as such. We are happy in our situation, even if people don't understand it. We are comfortable. And we have always loved each other platonically.

My ex caught wind of this, and is now attacking our relationship. I happen to love my ex as a friend, she is one of the few friends I have. I adore her and would do anything for her. And I have a feeling she is exceedingly jealous. The thing is, she broke up with me. And it was a healthy, mature break up. The friendship remained and we speak everyday. Now, she is angry with me that I have this kind of relationship with another person. And I don't know what to make of it.

I would understand some sense of jealousy if I broke up with her. But I did not. She did. And now I am getting texts such as "I see you love someone more than me, now. Thanks." and very passive aggressive statements. I don't love my ex any less. All love is different. I am just struggling to understand why she is turning me into the bad guy when we have been broken up for nearly a year.

It doesn't make sense to me. If she wanted something with me again, she should have stated so. I shouldn't be guilted as some form of a last resort.

[NWgirl2013]

Try not to react sweetie, you haven't done anything wrong. She just can't believe you didn't die when she broke up with you! (I am being a smart aleck, sorry!)
Can't live with ya, can't live without.
Enjoy your healthy new friendship! I am a fan of this one

[Grey Matter]

Aw, thank you. It's just a bit sad... she totally ripped apart the relationship saying "it's not platonic, it's a crush and it will end up romantic" which it wont. The two of us just enjoy being that close to each other and we don't want to be tied together through romance. I just hate that she is invalidating it, as if she is telling me we had it better. If that were true, she shouldn't have broken up with me.

[NWgirl2013]

Yep!

[PeachCream22]

Oh wow. I am..like. going through the exact same thing. Except in my case, I'm "your ex." i broke up with a guy because I felt we should get to know each other better, but now he has found another girl, I try to be happy for them even if it hurts. I think you're right to feel the way you feel. She shouldn't be like that when she's your friend now. It's not what friends do. But my situation is a little complicated though, and I think i am in the platonic relationship as well with my ex....who likes another girl ._. argh. We just hold each other's hands when we're sad...But it's ending though. We're slowly on our way to becoming real friends.

Sorry for getting off-topic, but I guess what you should do now, is to tell your ex to bug off. Nicely. You are FRIENDS after all. What's the point in getting back into a relationship with her when you don't feel the same way for her anymore right? And I don't think you're ready for a romantic relationship either. Which by the by, you can take your time in doing so. The thing is to be honest as well, about your feelings for your ex and your current , well, closer than friends but less than lovers friend?

Um, yeah your ex is weird, maybe that's why she's your ex.