[lsamson]

Hey Everyone!

I have seen that quite a few people here have troubles with their relationships with others. Today I wanted to try and provide a brief guide on how to manage your relationships so they can flourish in a positive way.

Let me know what you guys think!

1. Take responsibility for yourself.

This means that rather than trying to make your loved one secure and happy, you need to learn how to do the same thing for yourself through your actions and thoughts. You’ll need to treat yourself with compassion, acceptance, and kindness rather than self-judgment which could make you feel insecure and unhappy no matter how your partner treats you.

For instance, instead of getting mad at your loved one when he or she is late for your lunch, you will calm yourself and understand the situation. Once you have learned how to take responsibility for yourself, you will stop blaming your loved ones for the reasons that you became upset. Remember, blaming others is not the key to improve your relationship.

2. Compassion, Kindness and Acceptance

If you want to be treated nicely, you should also treat others nicely. Everybody wants to be treated with kindness, acceptance, compassion, and understanding. If you will treat your loved ones with these elements, you will have a strong connection with them, and you will be treated just the way you want to.

However, if your partner or loved one did not show any response to your kindness and he or she continued to be mad and show less care, then, you need to concentrate on the things that will revert his or her anger, judgment, blame, etc.

3. Learn Instead of Controlling Everything

When there are conflicts in a relationship, there are only two options that people consider. It is either discovering things that trigger the conflict to occur or you will try to win by controlling your behavior.

Many people learn various ways to control behaviors including blame, anger, niceness, defending, lying, and many more. It is because they thought that this is the best way to get rid of conflicts and would free them from arguing.

However, what they don’t know is that controlling such behaviors may just make things much more complicated because if they have lost their control to keep their conflict inside, the issue will get worse and this may end their relationship with their loved ones. That is the reason why learning or discovering things that trigger the occurrence of conflicts is advisable.

4. Make Time with Your Loved Ones

People are not busy 24 hours a day and 7 days a week. If you want to improve your relationship, make some time with your loved ones. A couple of hours will not hurt you. So, if you don’t like having a cold relationship, then spending some time together with your family or friends is a good option. Take note, you won’t boost intimacy in your relationship if you always don’t have time to spend with your loved ones.

5. Get Rid of Complaints

Positive energy will flow through your relationship if you will employ gratitude instead of complaints. Complaining too much can create negative energy and you won’t have fun with your relationship. Instead of complaints, why not practice being grateful? This may help you reduce stress in your relationship and may create inner peace.

Improving your relationship with your family members, friends, customers or people you work with is essential. But, you have to keep in mind that it takes a lot of effort to strengthen and maintain relationships. Improving relationship is not an easy and speedy process. It takes time, and your patience is needed because you can’t improve a relationship in just one day or overnight.

I hope this helps some of you guys, thanks for reading!

Cheers, Luca Samson.

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i wish my girlfriend would read this with me.