[raaddxx]

I am almost positive that this friend is unhealthily obsessed with me, but I would like some other takes on the situation also because I also believe this may be something deeper than that...
My friend and I have been very close for a long period of time, and over this time I have learned many things about her, as well as she has me. Some very strange things have happened over this period of time that have lead me here.
About a year ago I was having very severe headaches, and I was seeing a doctor for these and they suggested I go in for an MRI to make sure that everything was okay. Of course I was very nervous, and needed someone to talk to so I tell her what's happening and strangly enough she claims that she is having one done as well in the next week. She tells me details about her doctor, and how they did hers, and many of the details seemed very different to mine. She said they were inspecting the chemical imbalancements of her brain to determine her depression... A few days later she sends me these photos of " her " MRI and I notice they look very different than mine.. She claims she has tumors in her brain, and many chemical imbalancements causing her depression.. I later have her phone one weekend I am at her house, and I was just messing with her pictures and find that she had cropped the photos and saved them from google image search... This is the first red flag that I noticed..
She later begins telling me all of these outrageous sex stories, party stories, very drawn out and loosely based on stories of my friends.. Very unbelievable as well. After she tells these, and they get out, she begins saying that she never told us those, and that she never did those things.. Also very strange.
She then tells me about her dad having cancer, her brother having cancer, her having extreme depression fits and trying to commit suicide, bragging about her depression to others trying to make us feel bad, she would say that she beats herself up (then come to school with no evidence?), say that her mom had a severe allergic reaction and was in the hospital, she had to get a CAT scan, her kidneys were failing, her mom had a tumor, ect. many outrageous things that later were found to be untrue.
I eventually decide that I was going to have to start pulling away from this person because I felt like she was always draining my energy from me. So I start hanging out with more people. Any time I ever would hang out with someone else, or give anyone more attention than I did her, she would openly admit that she felt jealous and begin to trash talk that other person to try to change my opinion of them. Also, if any guy gave me more attention than her, she would trash talk me to them..
I begin hanging out with these people, and she constantly texts me explaining how I am hurting her by doing this, and I make her feel like she is worthless by hanging out with these people. ( one day she actually showed up at my house, used the spare key to come in, and came into my room because she was upset i wouldn't come over ) Her anger with me keeps building up and she keeps saying more hurtful things to me... Calling me ugly, saying I odn't deserve the attention, ect...
One afternoon I get home from school and she calls me saying she is being sent away because she is emotionally unstable. She claims that she decided she was going to commit suicide, so she went to the counselor to let them know that she was scared it was going to be her last day... She tells me that I am the cause of this because I no longer hang out with her and I don't treat her well, and I don't need her anymore...
Another time, I was out with a friend a similar situation happened but she claimed to have beat herself up, busting her nose and lip because I wouldn't hang out with her.. But then coming to school with no evidence of either? (dramaaaa)
I just need others opinions on the situation.. I am very lost at what to do and how to handle this because she clearly is unstable, and I don't want to worsen the issues..

[gayleggg]

I don't think you can make things worse, as you have no control over this person. I really don't know much that can help you, but to try your best to get her out of your life.. Maybe others will have other ideas or help.

[curley]

Dear Raadx: Wow. Sorry I pretty much agree with Gayle. This person has to many problems for you or anyone that is not a mental health physician to deal with.
I have known people that said they had every illness that someone else had and I feel it was for attention. I feel that is true with this person too. But your friend goes above and beyond. I would put as much distance between this person as you can. If you have to make up excuses I would do that too. This person sounds like someone who could eventually be very dangerous.
Good Luck!!!

[FrayedEnds]

Hi raaddxx
I agree with the previous posters - you sound like you're in over your head with this friend. It's great that you're concerned about not worsening her issues, but with all her compulsive lying, trash talking, stalking and blaming you for her problems, you need to concentrate on yourself and putting as much distance between you as you can.

I'm not trying to be extreme, but she does sound like she can easily become dangerous. I'd suggest sharing what you've said here with your parents and hers (I'm not sure of your age), trusted friends and that counselor she may or may not have spoken to. Also change your locks and/or remove the spare key so she's not able to pop up in your room again.

[jadzea]

i have a friend who is very much like yours. I knew her for a number of years. She always told these stories about her past that were extreme but possible. She related tales about her boyfriend, her dogs, a possible job, volunteering at the zoo, etc. They were all a little outrageous but again, they were possible. I just thought she led an eventful life. After about 3 years I figured out she was making everything up. I was furious and wanted to call her and tell her off. But, she also had problems with depression. I was her only friend and I was afraid she would hurt herself if I told her I did not want to talk to her anymore. Being a chicken, I hung in and just didn't take anything she told me seriously.

Recently she was spinning another tale about another boyfriend that I knew was a lie. One day I had enough and told her I did not believe her. She became very quiet and ended our conversation. I didn't hear from her for a couple of days and was worried she did something stupid. I called her, got her voice mail and simply told her I was not mad at her and she could call me if she wanted. She called and bared her soul. She told me she had problems with telling lies since childhood. She keeps telling herself she wasn't going to do it again but could not help herself. She thanked me for being honest with her and asked me to remind her of her desire to stop if she lied to me again. Things have been good since. I'm glad I hung in because I have a pretty good friend now. I just know not to put much credibility in what she says.

[raaddxx]

I have spoke with people about this, but just a few. I don't want it to get out, because I don't want to give her a bad name.
I just don't quite know how to get away. She always pulls a big guilt trip and then I feel bad for my actions, even though I know I'm really not doing anything wrong.
I have also called her out on her lying once when she randomly tried to say that she had a somewhat serious medical condition, and then described it very wrongly.. Once I did that she became extremely defensive with me and later apologized, but nothing has changed.
It's just a really difficult situation for me I think. I just feel like I have to get away somehow. Because even though I try to be there for her, and understand that she does have a problem, and she doesn't have a lot of friends anyway.. All of her constant negative energy is weighing me down as well. It completely exhausts me.
Thank you all for your answers, by the way. (: