[Heba]

Hi Every one,
I have problem. I am educated women I love my husband but when I got angry or I would like to discuss any topics with him I choose wrong way or time. Also, I used bad words it's seems verbally abuse but sometimes I couldn't explain to him my pain so, I lost my right and we got divoced one time becasue of my way of communication.

In my country we do not have a good communication program or councelier can you advise me or if you know any councelier online so, I can communicate with to fix my behaviour.

Regards,
Heba

[curley]

Originally Posted by Heba

Hi Every one,
I have problem. I am educated women I love my husband but when I got angry or I would like to discuss any topics with him I choose wrong way or time. Also, I used bad words it's seems verbally abuse but sometimes I couldn't explain to him my pain so, I lost my right and we got divoced one time becasue of my way of communication.

In my country we do not have a good communication program or councelier can you advise me or if you know any councelier online so, I can communicate with to fix my behaviour.

Regards,
Heba

Hi Heba, you can go online and find a counselor in any town that you live in. Communication is so important in any relationship that it would be a very good place for you to go! Good Luck

Originally Posted by curley

Hi Heba, you can go online and find a counselor in any town that you live in. Communication is so important in any relationship that it would be a very good place for you to go! Good Luck

I think she meant some place for an online counselor not online resources for counselors in her area.

I wish I had an answer for this. Hopefully someone knows of a good site.

[eskielover]

Culture differences are not the easiest to deal with....as you still have the same emotions as everyone else......but culture can make a huge difference in how it is acceptable to be expressed.

It would probably be a good idea to find someone who can counsel you with respect to what is acceptable in your culture because if you got someone from the US online & they gave you advice that wasn't acceptable there....it could get you into worse trouble than just divorced with no rights.

I understand your reactions......it would be very difficult to NOT be able to express myself the way I am really feeling.....but I have also learned over the years that sometimes the diplomatic way of expressing my anger does come across in a much better way....but there were certain situations where my explosion of anger couldn't be avoided & I was the one that should have gotten the divorce (which is something that is ok here in the US).

[Akash]

I have read yr f problem....although U have divorced, It is not yr fault at all, almost every person has communication skills naturally, but some wiser? has extra skills like that they show how second person or third person is wrong, they always pinpoint you on yr words sentences and meanings and don't left a single chance to dominate u, U have to preserve confidence that u r not wrong at all, better u have to read good books which will enhance ur skills, communication class is not beneficial.... T s