[HollyC]

Hello,

I have not posted oh here in a while and thought that today would be the perfect time. In the past I have posted alot about my boyfriend and his family. We have been dating for over two and half years and talked about getting married. In fact, I know he has the ring.

Here is what has happened. Yesterday morning did not start out too well for me. Its a long story. But to get to the point I called him looking for just some support. We ended up fighting at 6:30 in the moring. After not talking all day, I sent him a message saying that I think we should talk and he called me later that night. After talking about what had happened in the morning we got off on other topics and problems that we have. In my opinion it is the same stuff that we have fought about in the past. The conversation ended with me telling him that I need time to think things over. That I am not really sure what I want from our relationship or if I want it to even continue.

I expalined to him several reasons why I feel this way. He actually seemed to be listening to me, which could actually be one of the first times as I feel he tunes me out a lot when we have any conversations about feelings. I could tell that he was shocked about everything that I was saying but, didn't disagree with me.

I am not sure what to do at this time. All of this happened last night and we have/had plans for today. He asked if I still want to see him tonight. I honestly don't know. In the past, when we have talked about getting married and our future together I have always been excited and knew that I would say "yes" when he asked. Now, I am thinking that I do not want any of this.

I am just looking for some input on the situation. Should I see him tonight? Reply to any messages that he send me (I got one while I was typing this.)? How long do I let this go on for before talking to him? I am just confused on what to do, break up or keep dating and see if things get better.

[FrayedEnds]

Hi HollyC

Originally Posted by HollyC

He actually seemed to be listening to me, which could actually be one of the first times as I feel he tunes me out a lot when we have any conversations about feelings. I could tell that he was shocked about everything that I was saying but, didn't disagree with me.

Since that seems to be progress with your communication, I'd see how far you could go with that. I think it's a great sign that he didn't tune you out this time. Maybe you shocked him into some new understanding? If he's still reaching out to you, he may be realising that there needs to be some changes.

[HollyC]

Originally Posted by FrayedEnds

Hi HollyC


Since that seems to be progress with your communication, I'd see how far you could go with that. I think it's a great sign that he didn't tune you out this time. Maybe you shocked him into some new understanding? If he's still reaching out to you, he may be realising that there needs to be some changes.

Thank you for your reply. But, how long do I keep doing this for?

[FrayedEnds]

sorry if it sounded like I was implying that just because he actually listened this time, that you were obligated to keep trying.
I'm not familiar with your previous posts about things, so I really have no clear idea of your relationship other than it's been two and a half years, he's got a ring and you fight about the same things often.

as far as how long you keep doing this for...I guess until you stop caring enough to try?