[livingdeadgirl]

I found out yesterday that my sister's boyfriend/father of her child is probably cheating on her again. Yes I said again. I found out that he offered a "dancer" $1,000 to meet him at a hotel. The "dancer" said that she never actually agreed to meet up but that's not the point. I KNOW the "dancer's" story is true bc the "dancer" told my room mate to tell me about it; she named my name and she named my sister's boyfriend and also what he does for a living. It turns out that my sister's boyfriend actually told the "dancer" that he knew me and my room mate(who is a manager at the club she dances at). The dancer did not know who I was UNTIL my sister's boyfriend told her how he knew me and that I was her manager's room mate. I guess he didn't expect her to tell her manager about the offer he gave her. My question is what do I do??? I don't really want to be apart of the drama that will obviously come with that but its my sister!! Even if I don't tell her, I'll still have drama coming my way if she finds out that I didn't tell her. Please please please help me make a good decision. It's all I can think about. I feel horrible for not telling her but I know how my sister is.. she doesn't like change. She is only pulling in minimum wage and raising her only child, another family member's son, and her 18 year old cousin. I don't know how she could do all of that if he wasn't there because he's the breadwinner between them. What if he contracts an STD and gives it to her?? I am losing my mind with worry. Any advice is welcome.

[curley]

Hi Living. When you tell someone their B/F., husband, or significant other is cheating then you will probably be the bad one. You will be the liar!! At least that is the way the story usually works out.
Maybe I am not clear, but it seems that the dancer told other people about this cheating.....it does not sound like she told you straight out. Important rule always in life. If you did not see with your own eyes you are not holding anything back!!!!! You know nothing!! And that is the truth
If...you find out for a fact, with your own eyes that this man has cheated on your sister......if it was me....I would go to this jerk and tell him what you know. I would tell him he better tell your sis whats up!!!

[healingme4me]

I like the idea of you confronting the bf with what you know, more than being the one to tell your sister, what you weren't told directly, yourself.

If you could get word to the dancer, to tell you sister, herself, that wouldn't be a bad idea.

I hear your worry about your sister, financially. Her bf, has 1K to blow on one event, at a time. That's quite the little bankroll he's got floating around there.

If his name is on their childs birth certificate, she could claim for child support. There are means for single moms to work on getting back on their feet, financially speaking...if she did need to kick him to the curb.

[livingdeadgirl]

thank you for your opinions. I guess I just needed to hear from other people what I already knew. Thank you again.