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Nov 04, 2013, 08:44 PM
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my boyfriend is unsupportive. when i was the hospital for bipolar depression he wouldnt even visit me because he thought it was "too weird." ive been out for a few weeks and the depression is still lingering, along with anxiety issues. im back to work part time, and he works full time. i have a lawyer and im trying for disability, but it could take up to a year and a half. in the mean time, we're struggling financially and it's causing alot of stress. he's refused to get another part-time job because he thinks it's unfair that he has to work so much and I don't. in addition, he expects the house to be spotless, all chores completely done everyday, since im home half the day, no excuses. he doesn't understand it takes me half the day to muster up enough energy to take a shower just to go to work for 5 hours in the evening. he makes cutting remarks about everything, about lazy i am, about easy i have things, etc etc. he also says things like how much fun i USED to be, how much fun we USED to have and how sluggish and boring I am now. I used to feel comforted and safe around him and now my anxiety just spirals out of control around him. I don't know what to do anymore. Any advice would be appreciated.
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Nov 04, 2013, 09:19 PM
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Its no fun walking on eggshells, i would try to get away from him if you're not married yet, you can find someone nicer
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Nov 04, 2013, 09:22 PM
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Can I ask how long you two have been together? It sounds like he is not understanding the seriousness of your condition.
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Nov 04, 2013, 10:23 PM
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I would talk to him, ask him what his problems is...
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Nov 04, 2013, 10:51 PM
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here's some of what he had to say in response to me:
"and im suppose to what? be a saint? take move at 150% to make up for when youre at 50% what happens when i DO have two jobs and we DO have kids....how much goes on me before i break" ..."how could you be the person i tell "i wish she wouldnt sleep so damn much" or "the difference in personality is really starting to get to me" "im becoming more angry and resentful and i dont like it" i have to put it all away to not add more stress..." although i can see where he's coming from, i still don't understand the methods he's choosing to deal with his anxieties and worry...
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Nov 05, 2013, 03:10 AM
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It does sound like he stress out as well, taking that stress out on you. Which isn't healthy but does happen. I think you both need to sit down and talk about what each of you want of of the relationship; and if you still see eye to eye with the relationship, then I would try you both trying hardier, and you both giving each other some breaks. If that can't happen then maybe I'd look at end it.
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Nov 05, 2013, 11:40 AM
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Nov 05, 2013, 12:18 PM
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I'm sorry and that now is not the best time to make major changes, however, his emotional abuse is not going to help you get better. Would he consider going to counseling wth you? Somehow I doubt he would be open to that but it's a shot. You really need to look at this relationship and see if it is worth the anxiety and criticism you are getting. If you have other options of a place to stay you might be better off without someone who chooses not to understand how ill you are and that it is real.
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Nov 08, 2013, 10:20 PM
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This fellow sounds really uncompassionate, any body that cannot visit you while your in the hospital "because it's weird" has some real issues. This is not someone you need in your life! Can I ask if you have another housing / living alternatives; one that is safe and loving?
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Nov 09, 2013, 12:22 PM
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Oh my, if you weren't already living together then it would be easier :C
I'm so sorry that the person you love isn't as supportive as he should be. But perhaps he simply doesn't understand? Maybe you could try explaining to him? Though I'm quite certain you've already done so. You could reiterate. If I were you, and I'm saying this as an 18 year old child who has never had a boyfriend lol, that you need to sit him down and ask him if he still wants to be with you. Not the "old" you or whatever version of yourself he "used" to have FUN with, or a vision of you that he has but the current you. You could go from there and do what you think is the best for the both of you, not just him. |
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Nov 10, 2013, 01:09 PM
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Difference, in personality?! Really?! Really, with a dx, you are suddenly a completely different person?! Or, since you've met, is that when you began therapy? (out of curiosity) |
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