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Oct 23, 2006, 07:07 PM
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HOw does one forgive oneself, and move on? I contacted the one who rejected me brutally. He did respond, asking about me, but I have felt I was recovered and beyond this, only to do such a thing. I've spent almost two years processing this bad experience, only to have this relapse.
Sorry to post about this....I'm a mess. Patty |
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Oct 23, 2006, 07:10 PM
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This is a toughie.
I can only send my good thoughts.................... 
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#3
Oct 23, 2006, 07:36 PM
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Thanks, Fuzz...
I've just got to forgive myself for this somehow. Love, patty |
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Oct 23, 2006, 07:38 PM
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Also, I'm giving into the thought that I may actually need counseling for this....something I've resisted for the entire time of recovery....I hate admitting this!
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#5
Oct 23, 2006, 07:39 PM
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{{{{{Patty}}}}} I have no advice, sorry. Hoping you can find forgiveness for yourself and make peace.
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#6
Oct 23, 2006, 07:40 PM
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I think maybe you are right........ good luck
(((((((((((( Patty ))))))))))))) 
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#7
Oct 23, 2006, 07:45 PM
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BP...good to see you here....!!!!
Thanks, Fuzzy and BP... Patty |
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Oct 23, 2006, 07:48 PM
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we forgive you, does that help a little???
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#9
Oct 23, 2006, 07:51 PM
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I'm glad to be feeling available again! Its good to participate again
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#10
Oct 23, 2006, 07:53 PM
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Yes, it does, Bunny, (with your bunnies!).
I just really don't know what to think of myself. I was listening to Tommy Emmanuel's wonderful guitar music, and sent a cut of it to him...the rejector, a talented musician himself (one of the reasons I was so enamoured)..... As I said, he did respond, asking how I'm doing, though I know it was a generic reply. Yes, it is about time to seek counseling, after such a long time of recovery on my own. Love, Patty |
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#11
Oct 24, 2006, 04:22 PM
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Thanks again, all of you.
I am feeling better today, and not beating myself up. It was just a little thing, sending a song, and not such a biggie, and the email exchange was pleasant. I tend to punish myself for the smallest infraction...a holdover from childhood, I suspect/know. Now, ready to dust myself off and get on with life! Love, Patty |
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#12
Oct 24, 2006, 11:41 PM
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seeker1950 - i have the same problem relapsing with feeling the same guilt and not having closure on issues and things that have happened i too need counselling which i have realized in the past month but i have to learn to forgive myself and move on and also forgive the other person for what happened i have not yet done that which develops into lots of guilt and depression for me every few weeks
so good luck
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Don't give up It's just the hurt that you hide When you're lost inside I'll...I'll be there to find you Don't give up Because you want to burn bright If darkness blinds you I will shine to guide you Everybody wants to be understood |
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#13
Oct 25, 2006, 04:46 PM
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Hi, Arod,
I am thankful that I don't have a "slip" every two or three weeks now, though I did for a long time. Recovery is what it is...taking various times for various people. I worked damn hard to get to the point where I could watch a TV program, or even read a paragraph. Now, I enjoy most things, and am being gentle with myself for this recent minor infraction in my recovery. It just takes time. Love Patty |
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Oct 25, 2006, 05:27 PM
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I like that you are "being gentle with yourself." I'm trying to do that after I had an episode a couple months ago. It is good to have compassion for yourself as you would for any other human being. Glad you are feeling better. Sounds like you have a lot of insight & a good attitude.--Suzy
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Oct 25, 2006, 05:32 PM
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Thanks, Suzy...
Perhaps someone here should start a thread on recovery from broken relationships and the process involved. It takes time in different ways for all of us. I do know for a fact that reaching out to form another relationship in the romantic area is not a good idea. Patty |
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#16
Oct 25, 2006, 08:01 PM
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I hope that you soon will find a way, to make the past haunt you less.
((((((((((( seeker1950 )))))))))))))))))
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#17
Oct 25, 2006, 08:24 PM
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Thanks, Poetry, sweetie...You are such a dear member on this site!
I was so wildly "in love" with this man. It doesn't come and go easily at my age, but it is a learning experience, particularly about my own weaknesses. It is not such a big matter now, and I'm actually recovered, after two years ! I've forgiven myself for this recent "slip!" Love, Patty |
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