[profound007]

My cousin is 12 years old. We both several times when he was between age 4-11. We have been like best buddies, whenever we meet, he would hang around me, make plans to go out for just two of us. We were inseparable when we meet but he never called me. I live in a foreign country (same as that of cousin) alone and my family is in my home country.

I had an accident over here some time back and my cousin never called me. There was some problem with our families, so our ties are completely cut from them. But i miss my cousin a lot, as he was like my real brother, my best buddy.
I sometimes wonder why he never called even when our families had warm relations, and now i miss him a lot. I had sometimes seen him in my dreams too, just two of us hanging around, playing video games or goofing around.

I feel would he ever miss me in same way. Was all that time we had together fake? Did he never cared damn for me. Since our families have drifted apart, i want to just forget him, but i can't forget those happy memories. help Please.

Thanks

[anneo59]

sometimes and often, relationships change, and we feel loss. Sometimes they are rekindled and sometimes take on a new form. You could attempt to write him if you wish, and maybe it would help if your expectations are not high here. I wish you the very best!

[gayleggg]

You say he has never called you, but have you called him. Maybe he feels the same way. But I also agree with anneo59, sometimes we just drift apart when things change for us. I fondly remember being with my cousins when I was young but we all were at the control of our parents and didn't see each other often. Once we got older we married and drifted to different areas and just don't see each other any more. But the original feeling were true. We did care. Life just changed for us and we moved on.

[Odee]

Have you tried to reach out to him in the ways you wish he reached out to you?

[profound007]

Well i had always called him. I always remembered his B'day without storing it anywhere. I always call him on any day which is important for him. but he never calls back, except for one occasion when he was not there when i called and he called me later.

As i said, i never had close relations with his family, his parents are mostly selfish, ignorant and narcissist. We met for first time (he was 6) was a coincidence, he accepted me out of blue from all people around him, used to jump around me for 3 weeks, so i developed affection for him.

Now our families are broke, we don't have any communication with each other. I miss him but at same time, after the attitude of his family and how selfish they are, i doubt if all that time was fake, and is he/or would become like his family.

I don't have any way of communicating with him without passing through his parents. He can communicate with me but he didn't. It's almost 11 months since we talked last. I don't even know if he misses me, but i do. I met him last when he was 11, and we had good time together. I had tried a lot not to think of him but can't forget that good time.

I feel like being used. All my other cousins are just like that, he was my closest. I am alone in this foreign country, so i do miss all love here, which he might be getting here as he was born here and his family lives here.

Thanks

[profound007]

Originally Posted by gayleggg

You say he has never called you, but have you called him. Maybe he feels the same way. But I also agree with anneo59, sometimes we just drift apart when things change for us. I fondly remember being with my cousins when I was young but we all were at the control of our parents and didn't see each other often. Once we got older we married and drifted to different areas and just don't see each other any more. But the original feeling were true. We did care. Life just changed for us and we moved on.

So that's much of it what i said above thanks

[anneo59]

sorry things still status quo. Sometimes I remind myself to not take similar situs personally, because I have found that sometimes it's more about them, than us. Often we all don't know what is going on with other. Sometimes we have to withdraw, sometimes we have to reach out, and we all don't match up with each other at same time. Hope you are feeling better!