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We did play 11 hours of games together. Just me and her so.. hey yeah I have no complaints XD

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Old Nov 16, 2013, 11:27 AM
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I like your plan. Just sit back, relax, and enjoy her company right now. Over time, I think both of you will know whether or not to say anything or take things further. Have fun! Oh, and maybe doing some research on fun things to do in Japan....
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Old Nov 16, 2013, 12:11 PM
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Old Nov 16, 2013, 10:14 PM
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I would be careful not to let myself be seriously involved in online affair ,which may be just casual for her,but definitely more meaningful to me,until I would be able to really see her.
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Old Nov 16, 2013, 10:32 PM
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Why don't you give her some on-line compliments if you're interested and see how she responds?
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Old Nov 17, 2013, 03:05 AM
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I would be careful not to let myself be seriously involved in online affair ,which may be just casual for her,but definitely more meaningful to me,until I would be able to really see her.
Let it run its course
I know how most people say that about online affairs in particular. But it's not the online factor that I'm really concerned about. My ex and I met online, and were married for 13 years. we kept up for nearly 2 years via long distance.

But I don't want to take anything too serioiusly too fast, IRL or online. Been there, done that.
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Why don't you give her some on-line compliments if you're interested and see how she responds?
Oh I do. I am not totally forward or anything but she knows I find her attractive, smart and fun to be with online.
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Old Nov 17, 2013, 06:08 AM
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Oh I do. I am not totally forward or anything but she knows I find her attractive, smart and fun to be with online.
Just curious....having done the RPG thing...have you actually SEEN her or are you referring to a character?

As far as the flirting thing....about ...oh lord don't even remember the quoted post but, she as much as ran over you with the flirtation-stationwagon. I could understand if she was being subtle that you might be confused, but she seems very far removed from ambiguity. That's not a bad thing...but it is a warning. Most women don't put it ALL out there...first up on the game or even second...or third for that matter. We try to maintain a bit of 'subtle' if only to preserve our need to..well...self-preserve.

That said, hey...if you feel it and she feels it, have at it. But you might look closer to home. You might find what you're looking for...isn't necessarily thousands of miles away.

Distance is often safer for the heart....but helps not, always, the soul.

Good luck, and be well.
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Old Nov 17, 2013, 02:28 PM
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I would be careful not to let myself be seriously involved in online affair ,which may be just casual for her,but definitely more meaningful to me,until I would be able to really see her.
Let it run its course
I agree with this, in it's principles. Until, we actually meet, a person, face to face from online, there's this 'fantasy' creation of them. Yes, each can be, perfectly honest, but there's these little subtleties, plus chemistry, that is missing, from the overall picture.
No matter, how skilled one is, with written, expressions, face to face, is where you truly get the full mental read, of a person, i.e., body language.
If, this ldr,, isn't something, that has future potential, don't close the door,on other possibilities, not necessarily saying, stay on market, am saying don't close the door, so to speak, not until, you know for certain, is my advice.
Only guarantee, to know, she's as interested, have 'the talk', and meet.

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Old Nov 17, 2013, 02:46 PM
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Kathy and healinme4me expressed exactly my concerns. We have at times difficulty reading people face to face,online -gives too much freedom for make up personality,it is hard to judge. I am not saying you can not meet online,apparently you did it successfully in the past,but you met her after long distance so you could judge her responses. Why not Skype?,easier to see,judge and is free,no obligations.
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Old Nov 17, 2013, 05:50 PM
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Kathy and healinme4me expressed exactly my concerns. We have at times difficulty reading people face to face,online -gives too much freedom for make up personality,it is hard to judge. I am not saying you can not meet online,apparently you did it successfully in the past,but you met her after long distance so you could judge her responses. Why not Skype?,easier to see,judge and is free,no obligations.
I agree about skyeping. If comfortable with that(not my personal preference, whatsoever).
There is still something, to be said, for, meeting, then continuing ldr, until timing works out.
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Old Nov 18, 2013, 10:55 AM
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Kathy and healinme4me expressed exactly my concerns. We have at times difficulty reading people face to face,online -gives too much freedom for make up personality,it is hard to judge. I am not saying you can not meet online,apparently you did it successfully in the past,but you met her after long distance so you could judge her responses. Why not Skype?,easier to see,judge and is free,no obligations.
Well I agree with your points. Including skype but to be honest, I'm not really trying to push anything to any kind of "next level". I am content with talking to her how i do and was just mildly curious as to whether she might be leaning in the direction of being interested. That being said, truth is I'm sure we'd end up doing some kind of skype or video chat at some point, if the attraction is there.
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Old Nov 21, 2013, 12:22 PM
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Just curious....having done the RPG thing...have you actually SEEN her or are you referring to a character?

As far as the flirting thing....about ...oh lord don't even remember the quoted post but, she as much as ran over you with the flirtation-stationwagon. I could understand if she was being subtle that you might be confused, but she seems very far removed from ambiguity. That's not a bad thing...but it is a warning. Most women don't put it ALL out there...first up on the game or even second...or third for that matter. We try to maintain a bit of 'subtle' if only to preserve our need to..well...self-preserve.

That said, hey...if you feel it and she feels it, have at it. But you might look closer to home. You might find what you're looking for...isn't necessarily thousands of miles away.

Distance is often safer for the heart....but helps not, always, the soul.

Good luck, and be well.
Well Thank you for your honesty. I might add though, that it's not like a sudden thing. We'd actually already been talking for gosh, a few months now? It was mostly geek stuff, we were modding the same game and threw ideas back and forth at each other about it. It grew from there and at the time we didn't have any games to share and play together so we didn't. It has been since we've been able to spend much more time online gaming that now we've talked quite a bit more. So as for being subtle, I don't know if this changes your perspective.

Of course she was a bit obvious the other night. She left to go take a shower. When she got back I asked "all squeaky clean now?" And she replied, "yep! wanna touuuuuuccch?" I had no idea what to say to that.. and just replied "o.O" and she said "my........arm. >.> Don't let it go to your head." That, is kind of overt huh?

Later I was kidding around about her being gone cus she didn't feel well. She said she was back and said something to the effect of asking if i was too tired... I said to her "you missed me huh..." (kidding of course) and she said "yep. A Lot D8!"

I'll keep you posted if anyone's interested. If anything it's all fun.

As to your question about me seeing her. yes I have. I have both her facebook accounts linked to mine, I have many pics she's sent of herself to me (I was trying to draw her at one point). And yes. She's JUS' GAWJUS!!
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Old Nov 21, 2013, 06:10 PM
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Well Thank you for your honesty. I might add though, that it's not like a sudden thing. We'd actually already been talking for gosh, a few months now? It was mostly geek stuff, we were modding the same game and threw ideas back and forth at each other about it. It grew from there and at the time we didn't have any games to share and play together so we didn't. It has been since we've been able to spend much more time online gaming that now we've talked quite a bit more. So as for being subtle, I don't know if this changes your perspective.

Of course she was a bit obvious the other night. She left to go take a shower. When she got back I asked "all squeaky clean now?" And she replied, "yep! wanna touuuuuuccch?" I had no idea what to say to that.. and just replied "o.O" and she said "my........arm. >.> Don't let it go to your head." That, is kind of overt huh?

Later I was kidding around about her being gone cus she didn't feel well. She said she was back and said something to the effect of asking if i was too tired... I said to her "you missed me huh..." (kidding of course) and she said "yep. A Lot D8!"

I'll keep you posted if anyone's interested. If anything it's all fun.

As to your question about me seeing her. yes I have. I have both her facebook accounts linked to mine, I have many pics she's sent of herself to me (I was trying to draw her at one point). And yes. She's JUS' GAWJUS!!
Hahaha! There is something so fun about those first flirty interactions that just make my tummy flutter for you! Lol. Sending pics I think is a definite sign of interest and she definitely is flirty. Exciting!

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Old Nov 21, 2013, 07:22 PM
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"As to your question about me seeing her. yes I have. I have both her facebook accounts linked to mine, I have many pics she's sent of herself to me (I was trying to draw her at one point). And yes. She's JUS' GAWJUS!"

LOL
you are quite interested and excited...
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Old Nov 22, 2013, 04:11 AM
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"As to your question about me seeing her. yes I have. I have both her facebook accounts linked to mine, I have many pics she's sent of herself to me (I was trying to draw her at one point). And yes. She's JUS' GAWJUS!"

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Ok i have a question about women. Trust me when it comes to females and how their emotions and mnds work, I can safely say I'm pretty clueless. So if this comes off as dumb... so be it. I've already said I'm an idiot with girls so.. don't point that out

Ok so I'm not actively pursuing any women as gfs nor am I really all that keen on having a relationship. Am I against it 100%? no. But I'm just not pushing the issue within my current life. If one comes along and it works out, so be it.. but if not.. I'm fine too.

I know that typically males including myself can misinterpret the things that women say/do and the attention that they give to me. At times I've been known to completely miss the flirting and not even realize it happened until some third party lets me know just how clueless I really am. So I go right along possibly missing a few ladies that may have been interested. yeah I'm bad at reading the female being (yes that's meant as a pun, referring to just how foreign women are to me heh)

So I'm wondering. When a woman is interested in a man for more than just a buddy/confidant/friend, how is a man to know? I know that women will not typically be overt about it and the ones that are probably are not the ones I would want to have anything with anyway... What kinds of things do they say or do? Are there specific cues to say "hey I really like you.." ? The part that is confusing is, women can be sweet and accomodating, at least in my experience, but not mean anything more than "hey you're a nice guy."... but I have a hard time differentiating between that and the "more" kind of comment.

Mind you I'm speaking mostly of women online becuase frankly, I don't do RL meetings with women well. So keep that in mind.

Maybe there's not one single answer but perhaps there are certain things you can tell me to help me understand.

Sorry for rambling.
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Well, you are right. It's hard to read someone online unless they come out and say it.
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Old Nov 22, 2013, 07:35 PM
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....watch her body language.....look for mirroring.......flicking her hair......smiling and making lots of eye contact.......just go for it ....if you like her ......ask her out for coffee......if it goes well ask her out for dinner.....you won't know unless you ask her .......lots of luck....x
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I sometimes exaggerate when I chat online or play PC games, like emoticons and exclamation marks. Sometimes I would give the reaction people expect. (I come off as 'dull' IRL I think, but that's just me. I used to play online a lot (loved it). Personally I don't pursue r/s online because of past experience but esp because I'm married. But I would start with "I really like you", I remember I used to spend a llot of time online just to see him on. Srry can't really help that was a long time ago.

When I'm with a guy in person, (personally) and if I am interested, I would freeze in place for a few seconds, awkward (now I give that "I'm waiting!" face) and wait for him to invite me and say 'do you want to walk to class with me?' if he's looking away towards the door, or already making his first step in that direction... I let him go. If I really wasn't into him, I would say "Well I got something to do"
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I agree with Trippin, I think from the conversations you mentioned, there is definately some form of interest!
From personal experience, i like to uplift the person whom i have found interesting and fun to be around. We like to talk to others as we want to be treated, and if there are certain words used such as 'special' 'important' etc and spoken in a context of the time you spend together, chances are she is interested.

Hmm, sorry if i repeated myself :/ hope you found this useful!
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I agree with Trippin, I think from the conversations you mentioned, there is definately some form of interest!
From personal experience, i like to uplift the person whom i have found interesting and fun to be around. We like to talk to others as we want to be treated, and if there are certain words used such as 'special' 'important' etc and spoken in a context of the time you spend together, chances are she is interested.

Hmm, sorry if i repeated myself :/ hope you found this useful!
All the best in your endeavours!
yes, thank you for your encouraging words. I feel like she's interested but how far that goes, we'll see in time.
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I sometimes exaggerate when I chat online or play PC games, like emoticons and exclamation marks. Sometimes I would give the reaction people expect. (I come off as 'dull' IRL I think, but that's just me. I used to play online a lot (loved it). Personally I don't pursue r/s online because of past experience but esp because I'm married. But I would start with "I really like you", I remember I used to spend a llot of time online just to see him on. Srry can't really help that was a long time ago.

When I'm with a guy in person, (personally) and if I am interested, I would freeze in place for a few seconds, awkward (now I give that "I'm waiting!" face) and wait for him to invite me and say 'do you want to walk to class with me?' if he's looking away towards the door, or already making his first step in that direction... I let him go. If I really wasn't into him, I would say "Well I got something to do"
Thank you that helps too. I know that we are more uninhibited online, so I have to keep that in mind but at the same time, still... there's a difference between simple enthusiasm and "like" and some overtly flirtatious things. I don't think anyone flirts without the intention of getting some kind of reaction right?
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