I will make this as short as possible since I am seeking advice.

I am looking for a new relationship after 23 years with the same woman.
I met an outstanding woman and we hit it off famously.
We talked everyday for hours..she would text me and say "call me"
We talked about everything...our baggage, our ex's, our kids, our work...and we really got along well.
She would text me sweet messages and I would text her back. I saw her as often as possible but we hadn't had a date yet because of our schedules. We really wanted this to happen!
She hugged me and held me so tight...her kisses were so sweet...her eyes were loving...her hand fit perfectly in mine. I mean I was falling hard and fast, and it sure seemed she was too.

Then the texts became fewer and fewer, shorter and shorter...but still lots of "I miss u" and she would tell me when she was off work....but she never did. Then she calls me and says her ex was snooping thru her phone and found our texts and went nuts. She said he yelled at her and wanted to know about me. She said that he probably had my number now and not to be surprised if he contacted me.
And that was it. No more answers to my texts. No more calls. Nothing. Gone.
And for the record...never heard from the ex either.

Ok crew...educate me...what the hell happened?

[Truth in Ruin]

She was still talking to him all the while she was talking to you. They were NOT a closed subject and it back fired on her... sorry bro.

[Angel of Bedlam]

To me, it sounds as if she may have gotten back with her ex or found a new relationship and was trying to let you off as gently as she knew how. I know how badly this must hurt considering all you've went through and the connection you had.

If it were me, I'd step back and let her be. It's hard, but there are plenty of women out there who will love and cherish you as you deserve. I'm here if you need to talk.

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[healingme4me]

I am not going the route of the back together with the ex, route, here.

Does, she have kids with him? Was she allowing him, around her, because they have kids.

My exh, snooped on my phone, this summer. Trust me, he and I were far from an item, just shared kids! And he without a vehicle, relied on me, too much, for the transportation of the kids and him, to where they'd go.

So, he snooped on my phone, found texts between myself and my, at that point, new beau, a budding romance. My ex, started threatening me, my new man, etc etc. It all led up, to a couple weeks later, getting beaten up and pulled from my car, when he realized, that I would be travelling to meet my new man, and that the kids would be staying with my dad.

Has there been a history, of abuse(domestic violence), between herself and her ex? How long divorced? And, at least, for the sake of knowing she's alive and well, do you have the ability, to try, one more time?

No way going back to MY ex. All she wanted to do was drag my *** back thru the past. Done with that!
No history of violence that I am aware of.
She said she hated him...they were not divorced, that were in final stages and arguing about his pension.
She raised his 2 kids and they have a daughter of their own.
I ran the whole violence thing thru my head. I don't think that is it.
But something doesn't wash. I just have not figured it out yet.
Maybe...ahh who am I kidding. I have no clue.
I thought about one last try but not sure.
I mean if she can't respond to me while at work then she isn't interested in letting me know she is ok. Maybe some effed up game?
Dunno.

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Well I went on and sent her a message in a final effort to see if she might possibly have enough compassion to tell me her ex didn't hurt her and that she was OK...no response. The cops haven't contacted me to ask questions about her whereabouts or demise...so I can only conclude that for what ever effed up reason, she just decided to be done with me and stop communicating. Moving on. Such is my life

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[Angel of Bedlam]

Originally Posted by SpiritOfAStorm

Well I went on and sent her a message in a final effort to see if she might possibly have enough compassion to tell me her ex didn't hurt her and that she was OK...no response. The cops haven't contacted me to ask questions about her whereabouts or demise...so I can only conclude that for what ever effed up reason, she just decided to be done with me and stop communicating. Moving on. Such is my life

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You at least were the bigger person in all of this by sending that messgae. There are plenty of fish in the sea though, better this happen earlier rather than later, right?

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True dat! I am again ISO a woman to care for, love, cherish, and spend the rest of my life with.

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