[Broncos38]

Me and fiancee just found out that she be abused by her mother all her at age 33. She was really upset by when she found out.

[MyUsername1111111]

I am not sure who exactly you are talking about, but emotional abuse, in my opinion, is the worst kind.

At least physical abuse is apparent, and sometimes easy to see.

Emotional abuse is usually very subtle, and you may not even know it is happening until it is too late.

It depends on the severity of the situation, but emotional abuse is nothing to be taken lightly..

I am 48. It NEVER goes away. at best you learn to accept that God said we are supposed to honor our parent - so you suppress your anger and bad memories and pretend it didn't happen. But that leaves you with lifetime scars and unresolved issues.....

[Broncos38]

Originally Posted by Useless Me

I am 48. It NEVER goes away. at best you learn to accept that God said we are supposed to honor our parent - so you suppress your anger and bad memories and pretend it didn't happen. But that leaves you with lifetime scars and unresolved issues.....

It's only been a year and a half since it her mother is being this way to her. It's not like she has been dealing with it all her life. When she is ready to move out she needs to get the police involved before it gets worse. I looked the up number to get ahold of the right place to handle the situation.

Although your fiancee may only know or acknowledge this happening for a year, it's highly unlikely that it's just started. Usually when an adult is being abused by a parent it can be traced to longer term abuse and I don't think it typically will spontaneously start happening.

[Broncos38]

Originally Posted by Useless Me

I am 48. It NEVER goes away. at best you learn to accept that God said we are supposed to honor our parent - so you suppress your anger and bad memories and pretend it didn't happen. But that leaves you with lifetime scars and unresolved issues.....

Originally Posted by s4ndm4n2006

Although your fiancee may only know or acknowledge this happening for a year, it's highly unlikely that it's just started. Usually when an adult is being abused by a parent it can be traced to longer term abuse and I don't think it typically will spontaneously start happening.

Well before my fiancee's mistake her and her mother used to be close. And ever since those mistakes happened her mom did a 180 degree turn against her. But the advocate told her it's time to move out to get of the situation before it does get worse. Last August when it started.

Originally Posted by Broncos38

Well before my fiancee's mistake her and her mother used to be close. And ever since those mistakes happened her mom did a 180 degree turn against her. But the advocate told her it's time to move out to get of the situation before it does get worse. Last August when it started.

Can you expand on what happened that her mom considers a "mistake".