I have been dating my boyfriend for almost five months now. We connected instantly, but lately things have been difficult. We both brought a lot of baggage to the relationship and it is starting to come out. He has fibromyalgia, Tourette syndrome, anxiety and abandonment issues. I have anxiety, ADHD, PTSD, and depression. We really were able to help each other in the beginning. Now, however, we are growing farther apart. I apparently have not treated him well lately. It is a hard time of year for me with the holidays. I lost my father when I nine around this time of year. Until I was in high school, I lost many people who I cared a lot about, including my grandparents and my uncle. I know that this is a hard time for me and my boyfriend said he understood and would be there for me. However, he now tells me that I have been mean to him and that I only think of myself. He also is angry that I have been hiding things. I recently admitted that I am struggling with school. I thought shielding him would keep us together. I know that is wrong now. He believes that our relationship was built on a rotten foundation and that it will take a lot of time and work to rebuild it. I don't know what to say to him. I know he is feeling hurt and angry. And I want this relationship to work. But every time I feel like I am making progress he can't stop bring back up the past and my mistakes. I would love some advice on how we can move forward and repair our relationship. I have anxiety every time before we meet up for a date and during the date because I think he will bring it all up again. This is my first relationship. Even though I am 23, I am totally new at this. If anyone has any insight, it would be greatly appreciated.
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