[ahdm]

I started talking to Joel in August after a friend text him on my phone after I had overdosed. We started talking, and I started to really like him. He has a great personality and I hated it when he was sad or upset.
I had my phone taken off me for 3 months after I'd OD'd but then I got it back at the start of November and we've been talking since. He'd sent me quite a few messages in that time, and I could tell he was concerned: he has asked me every day since November how I am.

I really do love him. He always compliments me and tells me I'm beautiful and he wants to kiss me and cuddle me etc... The problem is, he lives in Wales, and I live just outside the border in England. We rarely get to see each other - he's 19, I'm 17. He is such a great guy, a real genuine guy. But he's been having some problems lately with his family (he's adopted) and they kicked him out. I've been really worried about him, but for the past 5 days, he hasn't said ANYTHING to me. Now this could just be me being needy and clingy and desperate or something, but I hate it when we don't talk, so I try to message him on WhatsApp every day when he's online asking if he's okay.

He doesn't reply though. I can see that he has recieved and seen my messages, and that he is online and so could reply. I don't know what's going on now because he hasn't spoken to me, but I'm really worried about him. He mentioned something about probation and something to do with the police about a week and a half ago, but whenever I asked him he wouldn't reply and hed always change the subject.

Is this just me being needy and clingy, or is he ignoring me for some other reason? Should I just leave him alone? Any other advice would be extremely helpful

Thank you if you read this

[nycgal448]

If u keep trying to contact him, u will be pushing him away further. if he
really cares, he will contact u. i understand, it's hard but u do not wanna become
annoying to him either. gl

[falsememory7]

Hey ahdm this is a difficult situation to be in, and I understand the confusion, because if I were in shoes, I'm not sure if I would necessarily know what the best decision would be... but because he's seen your messages, I think that right now, you should give him some space. He might be dealing with some things, and for some reason he's not in the position to message you back. But the fact that he knows that you have messaged him is important, so that he knows that you care about him, and continue to think about whether or not he's okay. I think maybe not texting him for about a week is a good idea, and then maybe message him no more than once a week after that. That way, you won't be too clingy and suffocating him with your messages, and also that he always knows that you're thinking about him; so if he's ever considering responding to your messages, he won't lose hope that he's lost your friendship, or anything of the sort. I hope that this advice has really helped - I wish i could do more keep hanging in there

I think it's not necessarily a reflection on his caring for you but of his situation currently. That he's been kicked out and apparently is now on probation is a lot that you seem to have glossed over in this. I mean if I were a guy that liked you and I was put on probation and kicked out, I'd feel shame and embarrassment to talk to you about it, if you weren't already a very close friend. I honestly think this could be a very likely reason for his not replying. YOu asked about probation, but he probably isn't proud of it.

Just a thought
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