[roger2014]

I noticed in my area people seem to work
So many hours,juggling school and work, etc.
And I have gotten to spend very little time with
Potential mates.

Then I feel like we get into this texting-only
routine but finding time together seems like
A logistics chore.

Is it like this in the rest of america? Other countries?
Do you feel the same?

So I wonder how to make it work nowadays with
A mate when we spend more time apart than
Together?



Roger,32, northeast usa

[Koko2]

Oops. I misunderstood the question. Never mind.

Unfortunately, it does seem to be like this with a lot of people because texting is so easy. I actually think we're becoming lazy because of it (plus losing our communication skills).

But as far as making it work while being apart, try to find other things that you can do together while you are apart other than texting. Maybe read a book together, watch a show together, if you play video games you can do that together, mail each other stuff, etc.

[Webgoji]

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Originally Posted by roger2014

I noticed in my area people seem to work
So many hours,juggling school and work, etc.
And I have gotten to spend very little time with
Potential mates.

Then I feel like we get into this texting-only
routine but finding time together seems like
A logistics chore.

Is it like this in the rest of america? Other countries?
Do you feel the same?

So I wonder how to make it work nowadays with
A mate when we spend more time apart than
Together?



Roger,32, northeast usa

you have to make it work and it will not change with regards to being actually together or apart. We live in a world where we are encouraged to be too busy and work our lives away.

As i told a friend here on pc, life moves too fast. You have to carve out time proactively to spend together or it won't happen. Things come up everyday, and although we rationalize that we can't spend time due to this that or the other thing, we always have choices to make. If you don't make time, find things to enjoy now when apart, I guarantee it won't change much when you're together. Life will still be allowed to get in the way. Don't let that happen.

[Macrick]

Originally Posted by roger2014

I noticed in my area people seem to work
So many hours,juggling school and work, etc.
And I have gotten to spend very little time with
Potential mates.

Then I feel like we get into this texting-only
routine but finding time together seems like
A logistics chore.

Is it like this in the rest of america? Other countries?
Do you feel the same?

So I wonder how to make it work nowadays with
A mate when we spend more time apart than
Together?



Roger,32, northeast usa

Hey Roger, my man

You sure you're 32 man? I mean like ppl are like this for a long time. Welcome to globalisation. Not everyone are like us, having the time to slow down & smell the roses. It's all about the all mighty dollars, man. Or least in pursuit of it.
Hence, we have all these speed dating **** these days. Anyway, relationships are like consumables in today's context. So, don't take it too hard mate.
Stay frosty always. Over & out

[RamblinClementine]

When I date a guy I want to take my time. I put my phone away and want to hear what he has to say. And just enjoy time. But, I'm a slow person! And that can be frustrating too. If i have more than a couple of appointments in a day I feel rushed.

[healingme4me]

Could always schedule the time, into the busy schedule. Most outside the home routines, work, gym, kids stuff, doctors, et al are set schedules. Coordination is key.

[Onward2wards]

We all have to make the time for what is important to us, set boundaries, etc. No it's not easy, but it gets better with practice.

[wife22]

We are all busy,running the never ending cycle.But,to me, if I find the time to be on PC,I can find the time for a friend. You don't need 30 min talk to let the friend know you are thinking of them: 5 minute talk is better then 5 page text. That's just my opinion ,but texting and lack of vocal communication is one of the causes of wide spread depression/anxiety.