[Macrick]

Hi,

I suppose it's about time to start my own thread. For starters, I have ADHD & depression. Am currently a foreigner in Australia. Male, Singaporean Chinese & 33 years old. I look like in my mid 20s but of below average height of 1.68m.

Anyway, I have some serious problems when it comes to verbal communication.
Perhaps it's the way I say things or maybe it's my non-verbal communication (or maybe both) is causing me to have problems forming friendship.

Also, I do get attention from ladies from time to time after I shortly arrived here. But somehow I just ignore them. I have many bad experiences with ladies in the past as well. (No, I did not do anything socially inappropriate)

Maybe I subconsciously dislike women. Least based on my recent 2 encounters & in the past, I just simply reject their attempts. I had one previous relationship that lasted 6 years plus. So, am not totally clueless about handling ladies.

When it comes to friends, I think the average people perhaps, thinks that either am tactless or a loser coz it's only at the age of 33 years that I begin my bachelor's degree. Least that's my perspective from what I gathered from their non-verbal actions. Like either stop calling or not replying to the text.
Despite my speculations, I do treat them nicely.

Now, am beginning to think that I treat people too nicely. So, I should be an asshole from now on. Since, my offer of friendship isn't appreciated. I also realised that people ONLY want to associate with others of equal social status or race.

Anyway, if any of you folks had ever been in this situation or can shed some light on my situation. Do drop me a reply, thank you.

[curley]

Hi Macrick. I had to laugh reading your post. I have heard men say that women only like men that are A-holes. I don't know if that is true but I have seen the nice guys lose and the bad boys win many times.
Don't let that change who you are. I don't think it is ever wrong to be nice.
I have noticed also that many people hang with their equals as far as wealth and social status. Maybe it is just more comfortable for them that way. I have always been one to hang with people I thought were interesting, fun and like doing the same things I like!

[AngstyLady]

No, I can totally understand where you're coming from. Though for one, it might be a cultural thing- seeing as you said you're not from there originally. Second, I can totally can relate to wanting to be a ***** or an ***, I also think I'm too nice- and people have said as much. Not everyone appreciates people like us, and it's easy to get burned. I think it takes time to find true friends who will appreciate you for you. I'm still getting there myself.

[Macrick]

Thanks folks for the insight. I mean like I can do without a girlfriend but friends. Everyone needs least one. I think I might give up on that too soon. Oh well, c'est la vie