[psihopatka]

I deal with depression and adhd. I think I'm doing pretty good, but the past few days are being very hard for me. I don't take any therapy or treatment.

I'm in a relationship with a man who has issues with revealing. He always lived kind of a double life, and he is a liar. He always tries to hide something, where he has been, with whom he talked, or even what he does for a living. I was the exact opposite when we met, I always talked about everything with everyone, I trusted my friends and my family.

A couple of years ago we went trough some tough times, and he got totally pissed of because I talked about us and our problems with other people. We've gotten into a lot of fights because of that, and eventually I stopped to talk with other people. He also kept talking about how my friends are jealous of me and how my parents and family don't help me enough. So I slowly cut my other relationships of, and also agreed with his "observations". For a long time I was convinced I did the right thing, although he never supports me when I struggle.

When I get depressed he gets very annoyed with me. He then often just works a lot, or even goes out with his "friends", who now nothing about him. I'm alone a lot because I work at home, and usually it doesn't bother me at all, but when I get depressed it's being hard not to have anyone around and to talk to.

I became like him a bit, and everybody thinks I'm not just okay, but great. I usually think I don't need anyone because people don't care anyway. In the past I also discovered that my friends weren't really honest with me and didn't tell me everything (as I did). But then I wonder, did I really tell everything, and did I really care? Maybe we are all dishonest at least a little bit.

I would love to learn how to cope with my issues just by myself. Mostly I am able to manage it, and it seems to me I do get better, but then there comes a time, when I'm afraid I'm just burying everything inside me, and eventually it's gonna explode.

[manwithnofriends]

He is untrustworthy. Get away from him.

[Macrick]

Yeah, I sort of agree. You may consider singlehood again. Step is, you need to improve your life first. Since I shared the same 2 conditions like you, I'II share some coping method. However, since you are lady & I'm a dude. Our symptons & coping methods may diff. So, take it with a pinch of salt.

Do you know that it takes 2 unsuccessful screwups to make 1 failed relationship? (Sorry, if I sound harsh).

1st: take a step back & look at the relationship from a 3rd party view. Is your relationship becoming toxic for both of you?

1a) If you choose to continue this relationship, then you may considering things like moving out on your own. (least for couple of months) Fix your mood & your lifestyle.

1b) However if you opt out, you STILL need to fix your mood & lifestyle. If you are an active person. Go take up an outdoor sport, exposure to sunlight fixes our mood. If you are an inactive person, go take a morning walk every weekends.

2nd: Working at home. Consider bringing your work to the public library or a quiet corner of a cafe. It will help to uplift your mood. Plug in your earphones if you can't concentrate.

3rd: if your condition is very serious or it's biological (meaning you inherited it)
take meds but don't forget your exercise as well.

4th: Talk to a family member or close friend who is willing to lend a listening ear. If you do have congrats to you. Unfortunately I have none. Well, **** happens.

That's all I can offer, be well.