[hotchicken]

I was punched in face today by my 16 yo daughter. I found out she lied to me last night about where she went (she always does this) and so I told her friend's parents about it. I am afraid I will be punched again when the other parent checks their messages and listens to the one I left.

I have a bleeding lip and hope no one notices. not sure how I would explain? I almost called the police but then was worried about what neighbors would think. I told her the next time I will call the police.

She has no respect for me and I have no control over her. She told me she was going to punch me again and I was afraid. I am also afraid for my younger child because she has hit them before also.

She leaves house without telling me where she is going and when I try to call her she doesn't answer phone.

[Rapunzel]

If she is injuring you or intimidating you by making you afraid that she will hurt you, calling the police is the right thing to do, even though she is 16. If you do it now, you have the chance to get her some help. If you wait until she is doing worse, you may not have a choice about it and she will face much harsher consequences. What the neighbors think is irrelevant. They either know what is going on already, or they don't and you don't have to explain anything to them.

[Travelinglady]

Teens can be difficult to deal with, but she is definitely over the line. I suggest you also talk to a therapist about her. I suspect she is doing something that can get her into trouble.

[stephyp]

You could tell her that because she has been violent she either
1) leaves home
2) has all monetary support withdrawn or
3) has therapy for anger issues.
Make sure someone is with you when you tell her this. If you pay for anything such as her mobile phone tell her you will be stopping it. Make sure she knows you are serious. You have a choice, a choice that will determine her future. Do you want to shake her up and stop her acting like this so that in 10 years time she is a pleasant well adjusted person or let her continue to do whatever she likes and end up in prison.
Please don't think that I am saying this as a solution. I don't know you or your situation but its just an option, an idea. Tough love sometimes works and its better than being afraid....I know.