[Ic0729]

Hi I'm a 43 year old who have parents who still hates me since I left home when I was 17 years old. I've been reading your advice to younger children about moving out and gaing back their respect, however, I want to Re-connect with my mom and pop. My mother keeps on bringing up all the bad things that makes me a bad daughter and my sister (38 years old) joins in with my mother. My father talks to me but he just steps back and lets both my mother and sister talk down on me. Is there any way for me to get them to love me or should I just forget the whole thing?

Isabel Coburn I sent Christmas Cards to all of them and all I got back was a facebook message of "those cards wont mend anything" attitude.... What now?

So sorry you are hurting. I'm sure you've done a lot of growing up since you were 17. When we're young we all make mistakes. Maybe they're still angry about you moving out but that's in the past. You can tell them that you apologize for any pain you might have caused them in the past and that you just want to be forgiven. Tell them you need them in your life and love them but you don't deserve all the negativity. Hopefully they will hear what you are saying and hopefully they will be willing to rebuild your relationships. I wish you all the best!