[AngstyLady]

The first time I've done this, but here a copy pasted PM I wrote to a friend. I thought I'd share:
I had an amazing first date with my new *boyfriend! I'm happy to call him. We're moving very slow- he's a true gentleman- I guess he's made mistakes with moving too fast in the past himself, but also, we both have never felt such a connection like this before and are so comfortable with each other and have so much in common it's like we were meant for each other!
the only thing is I talked to him briefly yesterday afternoon and last night and he said he's been super tired all day (his day off) and thinks he might be coming down with a cold. I said I hope he feels better (of course) and then he said he would try to text me or call me later that night before he went to bed.
Well, I have to get up early for work today and so I went to bed around midnight and texted him a sweet goodnight text, and I just woke up o go to the bathroom and have no response back.
Maybe he just fell asleep and everything's ok- I'm just being paranoid maybe that he's perhaps doubting everything- he said a few times on our date he felt like this all was a dream because he'd never met anyone like me- so hopefully he's not thinking negatively or anything- I'm probably just being silly, but now I'm worried and can't sleep.

~ I guess because everything is so great and then now I'm worried that it'll fall apart- I've had guys play games with me in the past, I just hope that's not the case now. I guess I'm just being insecure

[IndieVisible]

I think your just being a little anxious and that's perfectly normal. Find some thing to do to distract you I'm sure every thing is ok

[lightinthesky]

I agree, just don't think about it so much, it is only a text message, he maybe fell asleep or feeling sick, many things could have happened you don't want to think about every single one. See what happens in a few days.

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[AngstyLady]

Yeah, I of course was just being silly- everything's fine- he's just feeling really sick- He just sent me the sweetest text, so I know I was just being paranoid- I guess I like him so much- I've never felt such a natural bond -I can easily see myself with him for a very long time (if not forever) and so I guess I was freaking out- flying high on a feeling I've never had before and am scared to put a name to just yet . . It being so soon in the relationship and all. Anyway, I feel silly now for posting, but I guess I was having a panic attack of sorts.

[healingme4me]

Glad to hear, he was able to write back, when he could. Routine patterns, usually take a couple months or so, to establish, imo. Gotta keep your mind 'cool', to not fall into the negative self talk pattern.

It's a conundrum, to be able to look at someone, as potential long term, and still be able to separate yourself, from the 'idea' of it all. Not rushing, involves, not building your hopes up, too quickly. To be able to keep those blinders off, at the same time, appreciating each and every moment that comes your way. Keeping the blinders off, doesn't necessarily mean, looking for each and every flaw, but it does mean, seeing them as fallible and human. And asking yourself, each and everyday, and every way, is this person meeting my core human needs? Do our values and beliefs fall in line with each other. Is this someone, who isn't just treating me nice, right now, but has potential to be a best friend and life long companion? When the going gets tough, do we mesh well or not so well?