[Heather11]

A man that I dated for a short time contacted me after 5 months and it's thrown me off. We dated very briefly but he was still thinking about having kids and I know I am done. He's been dating and still looking to build a family but sounds like his clock is running out. He asked if I was seeing someone which I'm not. I've felt very strongly that he would be back but it's still not the right time, seeing that he feels he needs to give it a shot with someone for another child.
I know no one has the answers but I haven't met anyone that compares to him and don't know how to emotionally handle this unexpected contact. I Knew in my heart one day I would hear from him but still it threw me for a loop. He casually mentioned getting together for a drink and that he liked spending time with me, that he hit it off with me more than anyone he's met, but that doesn't mean anything if I don't wants kids now.
I've thought about him often and wish we could be together. I wish the timing was better.
I don't know if I should wait awhile and contact him to take him up on his offer or what?! My head is still spinning. I have a date tonight and it's pointless.

[NWgirl2013]

There are so few people in this world that you will feel this way about. Timing is never right, that is my experience. When something wonderful happens, you just kinda need to go with it and see what happens. Perhaps the kids thing can remain off the table for right now. It might be nice just to reconnect...
Best to you ~

[healingme4me]

Tough one, because I can appreciate the potential deal breaking aspect to the kids discussion. You've been up front and honest, as has he. Yet, like you state, there's a connection there. I sense, that you are more thinking long term here. Is it possible, to just enjoy each moment, for each moment?

Something drew him back to you, that is a positive. Is that date, you mentioned, with him? If so, keep us posted, how things went

[McDingiswayo]

Having drinks with him might be a good way to get to talk to him, figure out why he is back, and also to make him understand that you are not quite ready to have any kids.

This might also help you know the reason why he is back and if that reason is the right one. If he loves you, he will stay and wait for you to be ready, but if his reasons for coming back had nothing to do with feelings or emotions, he will leave.

On the other hand this might throw you into an emotional frenzy and you have to be ready for that. Try and think every decision or step through, try and think about the effects that decision will have on you, and be selfish and think about your happiness and benefit from the decision.

Goodluck though, whatever decision you make, just know that we are behind you 100%.

[Heather11]

He called me again and we reconnected and it was really nice to see him. We are still in the same place- he still has the probability of more kids on the table and I don't. I was feeling fine when I left last night but sad today. I've been sad since the day we parted the last time. It's difficult to let go of a connection with someone. I just still feel very strongly that he will be back in my life again as the door is still open to possibilities. He just needs to figure things out for himself and hopefully timing will be better in the future.