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Back in June, I made my first post on this forum about being insecure in regards to my girlfriend's past. Her past wasn't much (she was a virgin before me and had only had minor hookups like foreplay), but they still bothered me. After spending some time on this forum I managed to fix my problem and got over my thoughts regarding her past. But now it appears as though the shoe is on the other foot.
I'm not a virgin. However, aside from my current girlfriend, I've only had sex with one other person. That's a small number compared to most people my age. My girl is now suddenly insecure about MY own past and I have no clue how to handle it. I've tried explaining to her everything that worked for me when I had similar thoughts but nothing seems to work. What do I do? She wants to erase the thoughts from her mind and she can't seem to get rid of them. Speaking from experience, I know what she means, but it was HELL for me to get over her very minor past experiences as opposed to mine.

I don't know, I'm struggling in a way with my H cheating this year, totally different and long story, but I know I had nightmares about him being with this other woman, and I know I couldn't stop the thoughts if I had wanted to. I think after a lot of time it got easier for me to accept. I had to realize that whatever happened was just sex, and for him that was probably all it was. Now if you were emotionally tied to, or still are, to this person in your past, that would be a totally different situation.
But this isn't something that happened since you met your current gf, so I'm not sure why she is struggling with it so much. Are you giving her any cues that she may pick up on that you are not totally devoted to her? Do you tell her and show her how much you appreciate her every day?
You need to allow her to feel some insecurity, and reassure her, ask her how specifically she would be able to come to terms with it, like what you could do to validate her feelings.
just my thoughts, I don't know