am i losing my partner?

You can collect my relationship info from my previous threads. now I'm on difficult situation in my life. i came to know that my bf(legal husband) moved one girl in his previous office. he says that "she is only sister to him. nothing more than that relation". but my doubts
1.he went to bus stand to drop her by bike to go her native last week.
2.he using mobile without my knowledge.
3.how my bf got her personnel number.May be she given him as a sister.
4.everyday he used to call her at 10.30pm (after she came from office).

above all came to know only after i intimidated her. i went to her office and talked her privately. but some of her friends not allowed me to talk with her. they asked me to bring my bf there to talk further. so i called my bf to ask him to come. but he broken his mobile so i went his room to bring him to them.he didn't come to face those issues.may be he is hiding some truth. still he says that she is only sister to him. how can i believe him anymore? now he is taking revenge on him. he is searching all my previous friends(boys) to prove him that i didn't have any illegal contact with them. he is doing this for hiding some truth about his affairs. That Fu***kin girl created some scene. so he avoiding me. what to do? he did all mistakes but he wont accept that he did. he saying that he will show revenge on me. promise i didn't do any mistake after i legally married him. what i should do now???

Hi Buddy. Before all his drama was your b/f (husband) treating you any differently? I know you said he is now, but was he different before you decided to confront everyone? I ask cause maybe he is was telling the truth about his relationship and maybe he knew you would cause a problem.
If I am understanding right this man has has affairs while being with you..or did he have numerous affairs before he met you. Affairs before he met you in my opinion have nothing to do with you. That is before you!
What should you do....mellow out and see what happens...if you do not have trust then you should not be there anyway!!!

From all your posts, this relationship is riddled with a lack of trust from both sides. I am not sure that you are losing the relationship, as the two of you, maintain contact. At the same time, neither of you seem satisfied being married nor together with one another.

trust is a must. Each of you are allowed to have friends. From either sex. It is possible.
If you cant trust .....
My Bf talks to his ex gf. Not a problem I trust him. She was involved with his kids. Before me.
If i cant trust him then why would I stay. It is possible for other sexs to be good friends.

Well in buddy's case, her husband has made some serious accusations towards her, and made some really cutting remarks. There's other threads that tie into this one.

Not sure, this talk of exes being friends and still emotionally intimate, applies?!

thanks for you all valuable suggestions.. he never had any affairs before we met.. he says that if i trusted him he will be true. how can i trust him? he betrayed me. after lost all my hopes on him completely how can i trust him. is this possible? i fear that still he is talking to that girl. so everyday i fighting him and i ask him" are you using another mobile to talk with her? do you lover her? """ what i should do? my mom says that " if you want him just adjust with him , otherwise leave him " how can i explain my mom about my suituation that we got married without her knowledge.. sometimes he says that if you suspecting me anymore i will have more affairs. he assures that he will never do mistakes. can i trust him? can i accept his mistakes which he did before? how can i forgot the moment which he avoided/cheated me lot?