[skittles]

here comes the bride all dressed in white..... ...

ones of these days it might be me.... ....... been with my b/f for almost 3 years... ......when he gonna ask me......

[MyBestKids2]

the better question is when are you going to ask him?? Its up to each individual, but I asked my husband to marry me after 3 years of being together. He happily accepted advising he never asked me because he was petrified I would say no...

Go for it skittles!!!!

Hugs,
Dee

[Wants2Fly]

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the better question is when are you going to ask him?? Its up to each individual, but I asked my husband to marry me after 3 years of being together. He happily accepted advising he never asked me because he was petrified I would say no...

Go for it skittles!!!!

Hugs,
Dee

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I agree. I waited 15 years to ask -- and when I mentioned it -- he left 5 weeks later. I wish I hadn't wasted all that time on him.

[Direction]

I agree with the above...

[InACorner]

lol...well im coming up on my 2nd anniversery with my bf...coming into our third year....lol i still bug him when he is going to ask me to marry him....and he always says....ill ask you at the right time....it bugs me but at least i know i am not wasting my time with him...wish he'd hurry up though....so id suggest...if you dont want to actually ask him to marry you...perhaps just ask what he has in mind...some guys are kinda...well slow ...when it comes to girls....and sometimes a girl can see wedding bells...and the guy sometimes well....didnt know they exist ....so put a bug in his ear that you see your relationship going to this level....and he might just suprise you ...when i brought it up with my bf....(i kinda actually complained that im like waiting and he just is going about his daily business) and he actually confessed to me he looked at rings!!!

[NeuroticallyNormal]

Can I offer just a tad bit of advice from the male perspective? And please don't jump down my throat, I'm just trying to shed some light on the subject that may be missed being seen from the other gender's angle.

Men are afraid to commit. Men strive off of wandering free, although we know that being with a partner can be more beneficial, we also are aware of a certain wandering free life that will be gone forever. It takes a little time for us to wrap our minds around that notion. We all know this, but there is a certain time in a man's life when he is ready to accept that with open arms. Do NOT rush him. Now, waiting 15 years is a different story. Obviously, that guy's not coming around. But, to a man, 2-3 years is not a long time where us natural born procrastinators need to light a fire under our asses about.

Women work off of a biological clock, I get this, and it really is a day that many women sit and dream about as if it's this magical day and plan out every detail, but sometimes the only way to get to that day is patience.

Not saying it's fair, just saying... that's how it is. It's not as much a mystery as you think it is. Trust me. Pushing a guy to take on a responsibility that he does not think he is prepared for (even though he is and YOU know it) isn't going to help the situation. It's only going to make it worse.