[LadyShadow]

Hello -

Was just wondering, if you have ever felt forced into cam chatting with someone?

This happened to me tonight. I met a really great guy (or what I thought was a great guy), and he kept bringing it up. I kept telling him that I wasn't comfortable with it and he kept pushing. So, I told him I couldn't continue and he got really upset.

I am not good at confrontation, so instead of just blocking him I tried to face the situation and tell him the truth. He didn't react well.

I ended up just blocking him in the end. I feel really bad. This is another person that I liked that ended up being a jerk.

I don't like the cam, I hate the cam. All you do is stare at each other and its awkward and weird. Why do people like this camming so much? I just don't get it.

[Elektra_]

hi. i actually like cam... u met him in real life? or online?

[LadyShadow]

I met him online....

I know some people like it. I never understood it though.

[Elektra_]

oh thats the reason why he insisted... he wanted to see if u were really the person u tell him to be... or how u look like... do u have problems with ur appearance?

[LadyShadow]

I do, and I think that's the main reason I don't like the cam. I look good in pictures, but I don't like to be forced. I have used the cam before, and no one ever said I looked bad or anything. Guys have always been interested after seeing me on cam. Its just that I don't like it, or being on it.

He was always trying to tell me what to do. I think he likes submissive women, and I wasn't going for it.

[Elektra_]

oh if he kept dictating things then u did good in blocking him... u know ive been in a chat and whenever the guys kept insisting on me to show a pic or go to cam.. i would tell them the more u ask the less u get. if they kept insisting, since this would occur right away, i would block them caz they were only interested in that, u know. so tell them the rule. if they are interested in u, they will respect u. tc

[healingme4me]

Originally Posted by PlatinumHeart

I do, and I think that's the main reason I don't like the cam. I look good in pictures, but I don't like to be forced. I have used the cam before, and no one ever said I looked bad or anything. Guys have always been interested after seeing me on cam. Its just that I don't like it, or being on it.

He was always trying to tell me what to do. I think he likes submissive women, and I wasn't going for it.

I, don't like it either. No amount of convincing is going to change that view, for me either. It just is!

Glad, you are standing by your own principles and not succumbing to being pressured into anything. That's why these men, (women do it, too), turned on you. They weren't getting what they wanted, and in turn took to being disrespectful, to you.

I don't like it for the most part unless I've been talkign to the person a long time already and know them well. I'm pretty camera shy and video shy. I can understand the reluctance. It's not really weird if you are long term friends but initially, early in a relationship or whatever you want to call it, I'm not comfortable with it. You did the right thing and am glad you blocked him in the end.

Dont' feel bad at all. Regardless of the reason he wanted to so bad, respect for another person should be the foundation to build on from the beginning and he didn't respect your wishes by continued pestering about it. You don't want a guy like that. You can do better than that.

[cdnomore]

I agree, I think its good that you stood by your principles!
Someone who doesn't agree with THAT probably isn't worth the time and energy.

I completely agree with you. I don't like cam chatting, either. It really is awkward and uncomfortable. Or perhaps it's just me. But yes, I have been pushed to cam chat before. Never gave in, though. I just have too much social anxiety to do so. Sorry he got so upset at you for not wanting to do something that makes you uncomfortable...O_o

[lolitahiddleston]

usually men online are SEXUAL pleasures they can't force you to do anything because its only a cyberworld.

I think you need to learn to be more assertive in the "online relationships" because when you begin to gave a physical relationship its going to be that much harder to stick up for yourself.

I met my ex when I was fighting for a parking space at my local pub. We ended up ****ing in the car. For some reason he knew my address and ended up at my house at 4am looking for more *****.

I had to fight him again and say **** you I was at that ****ing parking space first!

I'm currently on olanzapine 10 mg on my first week feeling a little suicidal . I am fully embracing life at this point. :-)

[Hoyam]

I do think camera chatting with someone you've known for a while is a good idea it will create positive human interaction with that person but I disapprove his insisting and pushing behavior maybe he doubted u were who u said u r there's a lot of liars on the web, for whatever reason it's good u followed ur intuition and blocked him