I'm not sure where to post this...

I love my brother to death. He and his wife are some of the best friends I have. He's visiting right now, and it's making me feel like crap. While I really enjoy spending time with him, my mom is being a complete *** to me (funny how that seems to happen when family visits... or anyone else, like she's too good to have me and my wife in her house). I can suggest things and offer my opinion, and she just shoots it down. My brother says the same things, and she takes it like gospel and as if she had never heard it before. All day I have gotten snotty remarks form her and snidly sarcastic responses to anything I say... I can try to wtch a documentary on tv, or somethign that interests me and she gets up and walks away saying how aweful a choice my show is. My brother puts on anyhting he wants and she watches it intently (I tried to put on the same show a few weeks ago and she commented on how stupid it was). I don't get it. I know I can't do anything right in her eyes ever, but it's so much worse when other people visit. I want to spend time with my brother. I want to enjoy his company the one time I see him all year. I miss him (my wife and I used to hang with them all the time, but then we moved across the country, so we only see them once a year). I want ot have fun, but she just makes me want to cry and hide. I know I'm useless and have a ****-ton of issues. I know I suck at life, but does she have to rub it in so much? UGH!

Can you and your brother get out alone together during the visit?
It doesn't sound like this is Your problem, ....so sorry you are going through this.
Hope you do get some quality time to enjoy...

I was trying to get him to hang out, but he's spending time with mom. I told get earlier tonight that i was tired of being treated like crap for no reason. She just directed the whole thing to get general frustrations. I thought of it later, but she is being just like my dad. I'm not sure how to point that out without sounding like a complete jerk. :/

She's been better lately. I think my anger and maybe my brother talking to her helped. She has calmed her anger and we are able to spend some more time together.
It has been pointed out to me that my family has no concept of listening, just desperately trying to be heard... weall do the same thing... I just know I have to work on my end of it.

As my dear departed friend used to say, "aahh families. Can't live with 'em, can't kill 'em..."
Many hugs and a happy productive week to you!