[melbykins7676]

My husband of almost 5 years and I both have severe mental health issues. We both have Bipolar Disorder, ADHD, Panic Disorder, and PTSD. We also have 2 children with autism, 1 with Asperger's, and 1 with severe anger issues. We rarely have time to be alone, but we try to talk as much as we can. I guess I'm wondering how we can help each other. When I have my panic attacks, he tries to calm me down and gives me good advice, and I try to do the same with him, but I feel like we're both floating in the middle of the ocean, shouting at each other. I feel helpless to help him because I am doing so badly myself. My medications still are not adjusted and I've been feeling very bad lately. His medications are stable but he still suffers from severe panic attacks and depression. Can anyone help me find a way in which we can support each other better?

[Rose3]

Is it necessary for either of you to be shouting? Maybe start with eliminating the shouting. Try to listen to each other. Show that you care for each other.

[doyoutrustme]

I wonder if you would be eligible to receive some sort of psychiatric home health aide.

[healingme4me]

Take a look, at what is triggering the shouting matches. It's tough living in a home where there's two children that need a lot of extra support. Perhaps look at working on the anxieties, first, then branch out from there. What is causing anxiety? Is there any resentment for tug on adult time? Is there a way, to give each other breaks and space? It can be draining on a relationship. There's books out there, that can help bring you both to a better understanding of each other on an adult level. Create routines, in the home, that give time to quality adult time, not just at the end of the night when everyone is a bit burnt out from the day to day stresses of parenting. Plan some couple time, any family members willing and able to give you both, some hours to even sit at home and watch a movie?