[Broncos38]

Well, my fiancee mom might have ocpd. Her mother has this in and out board. But the advocate says my fiancee should stay at my friends apartment til Thursday till the advocate comes over. My fiancee has epilepsy. So, her mom is very bossy and controlling her. And wants her home right then and there. She doesn't drive. I called her and she was pressuring me to bring her daughter back home. This is affecting our relationship from her mom. Her living situation is getting hard. It's mentally stressful. Its getting worse. Her mother wants her to clean and wants her SSI check every month. But my fiancee doesn't want to pay her back for just helping her and covering interest in her own account. Her mother is not a payee of her money. Her mother is so against us living together and getting her own place. Then her mother intervenes with our phone conversations by calling her daughter.

[Travelinglady]

I guess I am slow today, but remind me what ocpd is, please.

Assuming your fiancee is an adult, then as far as I know, epilepsy shouldn't make her somehow disabled, needing her mom to help her with everything! Is your financee actually able to take care of herself and clean and so forth? If so, then why is she "allowing" her mother to do all that? At most her mother should just get room and board (like rent).

Of course, driving is generally a problem. I am wondering why her mom thinks she should get all her daughter's money, too.

I don't know all about your advocate, but maybe your fiancee can stay with the friend for a bit longer until this matter gets talked about a bit more.

I am sorry your future m-i-l is such a pain. If it's any consolation, I don't think she would be happy with anyone wanting to marry her daughter.

[Debit/Credit]

Some parents are convinced that epileptics are retarded and spend the majority of their time treating their epileptic children like brain damaged two year olds. There's nothing you can do about it. Neither education, nor evidence to the contrary will prove someone wrong who takes pride in ignorance, and is convinced of a hypothesis. Not even a high probability of being in error.

Here's my advice. Set up a direct deposit of the check from Social Security into her bank account.