[GItalian]

Hi everybody,

It's a short while, about couple months, I am dating a girl, we both are coming off of long relationships, me since a bit longer than her and as such we both are kind of afraid to jump in something new, she more than I with regards to this being only like 6 months after she quit her last one; we are just getting to know each other, she is kind of "cold" in appearance but I can see she cares about me, she is asking for time stating she is not ready yet but saying, at the same time, she is not into anybody else other than me as a possible candidate.

I am trying to understand some of her body language, when it's just the two of us (she late 30s me early 40s) she is always on guard but sometimes her armor falls and she reveals being very sweet, some other times, while walking, by example, she keeps always being on my side but never handing me a hand or looking too intimate, just friends I would say even though we got into kissing each other, hugging, touching...

My curiosity is about her eye motion, sometimes, when we are intimate and faces very very close like just before approaching kissing, I see her eyes in a non stop motion looking into mine, quickly moving left to right, was wondering what could it mean, any suggestion?

Thank you

[SeekerOfLife]

Maybe she feels vulnerable, closed in, fearful, trapped. How about asking her?

[GItalian]

No, to ask would be the last resort, I try to catch signals and their meaning, it only happens in those rare moments in which she lets it go and I can feel in my hands how she relaxes and enjoys being close to each other but this rapid eye movement is like she is checking me, staring at my eyes to find out something she only knows...

[healingme4me]

I do that. Taking you all in, that's all. It is vulnerability....

[GItalian]

By vulnerable you mean she is with no defenses because of me or because she lets herself go and enjoys what she is in?

I am confused since this person is very retreated, she doesn't show any emotion cos she is off of a painful ending relationship since a few months and even though I can see from signals, hidden ones, that she cares about me, she shows no feelings rather than friendship and care but when it happens we are intimate (meaning hugging or caressing) I can then feel in my hands how she relaxes and enjoys my touch and then can see this rapid eye movement like trying to look for something in my eyes.

Thank you