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Old Feb 02, 2014, 12:39 AM
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There is this guy who I met about a month ago and I really like him a lot. However, lately, he won't reply to my texts and when he does reply is just one word replies. That has made me so depressed because I don't think he likes me as much or likes me at all. I feel like I'm just bothering him every time I text him and tell him I miss him. Why I'm I so annoying? I be stressing everybody >.<!

Anyone else feels this way when people don't text you back?
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Old Feb 02, 2014, 03:21 AM
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Maybe he's telling you to move on? It hurts but at least you'll learn from it.
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Old Feb 02, 2014, 01:27 PM
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Hi, it sounds like he probably isn't the kind of guy you hoped he was or wanted him to be. If that's the case it's probably really good that he's showing you that now and giving you the opportunity to move on and, when you're ready, find someone better for you.
But firstly, why not check in with him and tell him how you're feeling? Afterall there might be something wrong at his end or there might be some compromises you both can make if he just finds it hard to be as "expressive" as you.
But if not then hey, more see it as he isn't living up to YOUR expectations or standards as opposed to the other way around. And give yourself the chance to meet someone who's closer to the mark for YOU.
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Old Feb 02, 2014, 01:35 PM
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what was his behavior before this? did u go on dates with him? hang out?
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Old Feb 02, 2014, 04:47 PM
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what was his behavior before this? did u go on dates with him? hang out?
Not really but he would text me often just to know how I was doing, he wouldn't go days without talking to me, he would be down to hang out in his apartment, we'll sleep together with his arm around me, it felt like he really liked me for real
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Old Feb 02, 2014, 04:49 PM
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Maybe he's telling you to move on? It hurts but at least you'll learn from it.
I do not want that because I'm finally settling down for him, I haven't talked to anybody else, he is like the guy I've always been looking for, if he want's me to move on then I'll just go back to being promiscuous =(
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Old Feb 02, 2014, 04:52 PM
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Hi, it sounds like he probably isn't the kind of guy you hoped he was or wanted him to be. If that's the case it's probably really good that he's showing you that now and giving you the opportunity to move on and, when you're ready, find someone better for you.
But firstly, why not check in with him and tell him how you're feeling? Afterall there might be something wrong at his end or there might be some compromises you both can make if he just finds it hard to be as "expressive" as you.
But if not then hey, more see it as he isn't living up to YOUR expectations or standards as opposed to the other way around. And give yourself the chance to meet someone who's closer to the mark for YOU.
He told me he was going through something a week ago but even though I'm just trying to be there for him and wanting to support him he seems to just not want me to bother him. I don't even feel like he wants to talk to me at all or see me, idk what it is
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Old Feb 02, 2014, 05:03 PM
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u only hang out in his apartment? did u have sex?
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Old Feb 02, 2014, 05:05 PM
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Hi, if you think that there's the possibility that whatever he's going through might be
causing the distance maybe try talking to him about it (assuming he's worth it).
If it's really personal though there's a chance that he may not want to talk about it and need/want to work on/with it himself, so if you just let him know that you're there for him (and send him the odd text not expecting too much) that might help him a bit (even if he doesn't talk to you about it) or keep the doors open.
But IF it turns out that he's not being honest, you start getting REAL suspicions.......back to my original.......there's going to be someone better for you out there!!
Hope it works out whatever happens though.
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Old Feb 02, 2014, 05:07 PM
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Texting is always hard for me. I never know how a guy is feeling through texts. I hate texting because it seems like you're always waiting for an answer you will never get. I think he is trying to hint that he doesn't really want to be with you.
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Old Feb 02, 2014, 05:19 PM
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u only hang out in his apartment? did u have sex?
Yea a couple times, and he seems to enjoy it a lot so I don't understand what's going on.
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Old Feb 02, 2014, 05:22 PM
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Hi, if you think that there's the possibility that whatever he's going through might be
causing the distance maybe try talking to him about it (assuming he's worth it).
If it's really personal though there's a chance that he may not want to talk about it and need/want to work on/with it himself, so if you just let him know that you're there for him (and send him the odd text not expecting too much) that might help him a bit (even if he doesn't talk to you about it) or keep the doors open.
But IF it turns out that he's not being honest, you start getting REAL suspicions.......back to my original.......there's going to be someone better for you out there!!
Hope it works out whatever happens though.
Alison
I told him I was there for him and that he could always reach me anytime for anything but he just doesn't, I guess I should just give him time maybe is too soon to be feeling this way, it has just been a month. Thank you though =)
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Old Feb 02, 2014, 05:24 PM
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Texting is always hard for me. I never know how a guy is feeling through texts. I hate texting because it seems like you're always waiting for an answer you will never get. I think he is trying to hint that he doesn't really want to be with you.
If that's the case I will really break down, I hope that's not what he is feeling =/
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Old Feb 02, 2014, 05:37 PM
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when someone just see u in their home, dont wanna go out and ur already having sex is more likely they are just using u for sex...
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Old Feb 02, 2014, 05:48 PM
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when someone just see u in their home, dont wanna go out and ur already having sex is more likely they are just using u for sex...
Well that's actually because I'm on the low and discrete about all this, no one knows I get down with guys and stuff so I'm paranoid about going out in public, plus when we have sex it's me who makes the first moves, so I don't feel like he is using me, everyone else makes me feel used but not him it's different. You see why I feel some type of way?
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Old Feb 02, 2014, 05:55 PM
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oh u didnt give much specifics about situation. is he open about his sexuality? it can b that. or hes not interested anymore. call him. if he doesnt pick up then hes not worth ur time. u deserve at least an explanation.
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Old Feb 02, 2014, 06:01 PM
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oh u didnt give much specifics about situation. is he open about his sexuality? it can b that. or hes not interested anymore. call him. if he doesnt pick up then hes not worth ur time. u deserve at least an explanation.
You are right about that. I'm just going to let it slide through and wait for him to decide to talk to me. I'm tired of being the one worrying. Thanks for replying btw =)
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Old Feb 03, 2014, 12:02 PM
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I do not want that because I'm finally settling down for him, I haven't talked to anybody else, he is like the guy I've always been looking for, if he want's me to move on then I'll just go back to being promiscuous =(
unfortunately it's not up to just what you want. Why settle down for someone that in your mind is the right one when he doesn't seem to be on the same page as you, tbh.

I am a guy and if it's a girl that I'm interested in and she's texting me I sure as sh* won't brush her off by throwing one word replies. Thing is also that it's obviously a new thing between you two and I would especially not do that in the beginning if I like the girl fro the exact reason that it would do exactly what it's doing to you.

Yeah based on that I'd go with the idea that he's not interested. Spare yourself the heartache you're likely headed for if you keep hanging onto this.
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Old Feb 03, 2014, 10:38 PM
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Yea I understand what you are saying. He texted tho and said he is not mad at me but that he doesn't want to be bothered, guess I should forget about us =\

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Old Feb 03, 2014, 11:29 PM
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Wait... in the sex and gender forum you say that you will end your life if you could not become straight, and here you are aching because a guy you like does not want to be bothered.

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Old Feb 08, 2014, 11:08 PM
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Wait... in the sex and gender forum you say that you will end your life if you could not become straight, and here you are aching because a guy you like does not want to be bothered.

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Ugh is so complicated!!! I don't know what I want. But the only way I can satisfy myself is with guys because with girls is just useless trying. That's what gets me so mad and upset, I do not want to be like this but I do not have any other option than get down with guys to satisfy my needs and now I'm liking someone too much. This guy I been talking about is the only one that I haven't punished myself for.

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Old Feb 09, 2014, 12:28 AM
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I think you need to embrace the reality. You don't appear to even be bisexual, but rather outright gay. There is no point in fighting your nature... your essence. So good job not punishing yourself with this man and keep it up (keep not punishing yourself).

Of course you are very young, but still, a life wasted is life wasted at any age. You may waste the next 5 years and then finally accept the reality, or you may accept the reality now and find better ways to spend the next five years.

Your non-rising to girls is a way in which your body, heart, and mind are trying to tell you something very important. Listen to them!
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Old Feb 09, 2014, 12:57 AM
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I think you need to embrace the reality. You don't appear to even be bisexual, but rather outright gay. There is no point in fighting your nature... your essence. So good job not punishing yourself with this man and keep it up (keep not punishing yourself).

Of course you are very young, but still, a life wasted is life wasted at any age. You may waste the next 5 years and then finally accept the reality, or you may accept the reality now and find better ways to spend the next five years.

Your non-rising to girls is a way in which your body, heart, and mind are trying to tell you something very important. Listen to them!
Not even, I do like girls but the problem is when it comes to sex, I have to turn to guys for that :/ but I talk to females and even been in relationships however I'm always insecure about how much of a failure our sex life would be.

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Old Feb 09, 2014, 01:10 AM
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Do you ever fantasize about any of the girls whom you know?
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Old Feb 09, 2014, 01:31 AM
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Do you ever fantasize about any of the girls whom you know?
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