Why? Why? I wonder why?

Why is it, that when I pm others... I get replies... but when I'm feeling really sad and down... that little letter will not show- saying: "you've got pm's"??? So... what should be my conclusion? That I'm not wanted, when I'm not writing on the board or writing pm's? Am I only visible, when my words are written "black on white"?


A lonely... confused PoetryLover...

Ohhh Hon, so sorry, I've been so busy with my crazy thoughts, I've been selfish.
I'm here, and I'll be here always for you.
My most humble apology~

(((((((((((((( biplol ))))))))))))

No no no.... this wasn't meant to cause sadness or anxiety in others! We all have our issues to deal with. Sometimes... it feels weird, when almost everybody kind of disappears... I feel forgotten...

biplol... don't take this too much to heart!

Thank you so much for caring!

It's hard for people to be mindreaders ... maybe they don't know you're sad and down unless you bring it up. (Unless you're me, and then you bring it up and get ignored anyway.) I wouldn't conclude anything bad about yourself, at any rate.

CB

I agree with Candybear. I'm not meaning to be harsh... it's too easy to jump to sometimes wrong conclusions and make assumptions though, for everyone, it's one of the things we all fight, imo

I suggest, if you feel ignored by any specific person or people, ask them! At least you'll hopefully find out why they have been quiet then..... it most likely hasn't got anything to do with you! Some people have more of a need for reassurance and regular PMs than others do (goes without saying, really ) I'm not suggesting it's easy, I struggle with rejection and abandonment issues too

And I do know the hurt of feeling abandoned just when things are feeling at their worst, it sucks. But, it passes

((((((( Nina ))))))

nina....you are never forgotten in my life..........

nina, nina,nina..........i love your voice messages to me and i can't figure out how to reply so i do my best by e.mailing you back.....you're top notch in my book. couldn't make it without you.......love, pat

I'm so sorry! I should never have written this post! Those who really do care... got hurt by my words. That was not my intention!
I apologize- in the most humble way I can.
I'm not in a good place right now... shouldn't take that out on you.
I need you guys and I want to be there for you too!
I guess I'm just worn out...
Once again- I'M SORRY! Maybe I'm too sensitive, right now.
I love you, my true friends!

Nina,not forgotten by me... i have been super busy! and it is only going to get worse.( basketball starts tonight and i am coaching, so i will have basketball 4 nights a week ahhhhhhh)
I am sorry if i have neglected you in your time of need, it wasnt intentional. i have just been really busy

Sorry if my message seemed harsh I was just trying to give another perspective on it. I do appreciate you! ((((((((((((( Nina ))))))))))))))

You were writing what you thought. That is not a crime. People should be able to say how they feel.... this is a support community. We should be able to support others when they are not in a good place. Or rejoyce when something good is going on. I believe live and let live.

I agree. Unfortunately it doesn't always work that way. Fairness exists no where.

Hi Poetrylover --

I am returning to the Forums after a long time away. Some of the same people are responding here that I knew best back then. I know that no one intended to cause you pain, and it certainly isn't wrong to say how you felt. Sometimes that's the best way to get what we need.

Other people are not mind-readers, and by saying that, I don't intend any criticism of you or anyone else. In my own experience, I sometimes think that others will magically know how I feel or what I need, without my telling them.

I'm glad you posted to say how you felt.

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