[kala83]

living at home with my mom and dealing with all the stress that it lays on me....is proving to just sucker punch me in the head as far as my emotions and as far as my mental health.

Its literally making my depressive swings happen far more often...my sucidal thought processes go on far more around here.

I try to be repsectful and kind I try to get things done....around the house and help her out and do things...but it literally does no good what so ever....

and I feel like i have come to the end of my rope we are going to see my indivdual councelor on Wednesday of this week....at 11 am.....I know she is going to sugar code things over to make it seem like its not as bad as it is.

I know that I do a lot of things that probably contribute to making the stress between the two of us get worse...but the fact that its always my doing or my fault...and it never is hers....is the thing that gets to me the most.

She does not really want to own up to that a lot of the things she does contribute to this.

the worst thing she does is that she does this mind reading attempt kind of thing....of where she will sit there and tell me how I am feeling and what I am thinking...or what matters and does not matter to...me I find it so incredibly invladating....to be told how I think....and what matters to me....I should have owners ship to my own brain and my thoughts and feelings and for her to say that she knows how I feel and what matter and what does not matter. By the physical manifestations that outwardly come out is wrong.

just because I struggle with keeping to a schedule of cleaning and picking things up ...keeping them organized does not by any means. Mean that it just simply does not matter to me...

[Rose3]

Sorry to hear about your unhappiness. Sounds like your mother tries to impose her ideas, in a way that is overly intrusive and obnoxious. Maybe she is simply not capable of validating. Hopefully your counsellor is a good one, and experienced in working with individuals and their mothers. My opinion - your mother does not define your thoughts or feelings, nor does she define the things that matter to you. So - it is important that you realize that it is yours to define your own thoughts, feelings, and things that matter. So - perhaps your counsellor can assist you to work on this. Hope things improve for you.

[kala83]

I am hoping I can communicate with her and she will actually hear what I am saying with her actually being with my councilor I mean obvisously when I try to talk to her about things it dosn't seem to make very much of effect.

[Koko2]

Originally Posted by kala83

living at home with my mom and dealing with all the stress that it lays on me....is proving to just sucker punch me in the head as far as my emotions and as far as my mental health.
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the worst thing she does is that she does this mind reading attempt kind of thing....of where she will sit there and tell me how I am feeling and what I am thinking...or what matters and does not matter to...me I find it so incredibly invladating....to be told how I think....and what matters to me....I should have owners ship to my own brain and my thoughts and feelings and for her to say that she knows how I feel and what matter and what does not matter.
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That is terrible to have a mother who is some kind of psychic who knows your thoughts, feelings and motivations better than you do. I've had a similar experience.

[kala83]

she thinks that cause she birthed me she knows a great deal about me and I am not truly saying that this is wrong...but for anyone to tell me what my feelings are and why they are what they are is fairly annoying and rude to me.