[emptyandhostile-]

Me and my partner have not been intimate at all in last little while. He can't seem to keep himself going in the bedroom. he'll sit there and touch me for awhile, but...still nothing. i would obviously get upset by It. But lately I've been trying to be more understanding because he said he would get counseling and go see a doctor to figure out what the problem is. Last night we drank with friends, and when I woke up this morning i asked him to go grab me some juice out of the fridge, he said he would, but I was really dehydrated and hungover and had no pants on and our friend is passed out in our living room which is why i asked him to in the first place but he had to take a pee first. so i just sighed and said "fine i'll do it" and he starts swearing at me. I'm just like well "f*** you too" he said he had a boner and had to put some pants on so i said "shouldn't that be your proud and shiny moment" he comes back in to the room "wtf did you just say to me , if keep that sh** up you'll be single REAAL fast" so i was told him why i sighed in the first place "maybe i'm just hungover" "no you were talking like you were going to have a tantrum like usual" so basically assuming everything. when really i was just hungover and so dehydrated that I couldn't wait, so I just got up and did it myself. Now he's not talking to me. and we are fighting while our friend is passed out in the other room. and urgh this Is just soo... god damn lonely.

Like just the other day I mentioned that things need to change, because I'm miserable, and my needs aren't being met, and I told him breaking up seems to be are only other option. and he was like no "no baby we can make it work" and now this? really? I just don't know what to do anymore. I feel stuck, I love the guy but it always seems to be one thing after an other. and now after him telling me "oh it's not you, it could be a medical issue or when my ex girlfriends abused me" he's saying "I wonder why I can't keep it up" in a really snarky tone of voice, basically implying it's me. He says one thing and does/says another, and It's confusing as ****. I'm just not really sure what I should do anymore. It feels like this relationship is just draining me, and I'm still really young, and I know I'm not that bad looking, I just have some issues I need to work on, and he does too. I'm just in a situation right now where we live together. and we share the same welfare cheque, and I don't know if i could even make it out on my own right now. My friends have told me to get back on my feet, and then leave him. It's just a really crappy situation right now, because I'm stuck at home all the time, and I don't have anything else going for me right now. I will honestly take any advice I can get at this point, because I'm so tired of this ****.

[healingme4me]

You can only control, your actions and reactions.
Arguing all the time, does no one any good.
I don't understand the frustration if he had to use the bathroom before getting you something to drink.

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[emptyandhostile-]

because I was dehydrated, and hungover. I wasn't frustrated, I just got up and did it myself. because I sighed he thought I was pissed off.

[River11]

It certainly sounds like a lot of hostility and misery is there, with you both ready to jump down each other's throats at the slightest provocation. And a very untenable situation with you having to share living space and finances ...
Is there any way you can get a bit of space to yourself? Spend time out somewhere regularly? So you can get sanity, clarity, breathing space for yourself.

[healingme4me]

Originally Posted by emptyandhostile-

because I was dehydrated, and hungover. I wasn't frustrated, I just got up and did it myself. because I sighed he thought I was pissed off.

If not, frustrated, why the sigh? The sigh, along with the body language, can sometimes be enough to display some form of emotion, no? If not, frustration, then was it a sense of resentment? See, what I am asking?

[hamster-bamster]

I think you are stir crazy and that exacerbates all the problems noted by posters above. Set a goal of spending at least X hours out of the house, every day, rain or shine. Hiking, public libraries, aimless wandering, meetups, etc. Volunteering. Babysitting Or running errands for somebody for cash.