[VirtualRiotary]

When my parents separated ,custody over me and my brother were given to my mother, by mother was a child. So my mum turned to me and men for support.
Prior to the divorce, from a long time before and till now, she has suffered severe depression, a archaic treatment caused her to lose her long time memory. We were Jehovah witnesses at the time and as a result, my mother was dis communicated our congregation (No one can speak to us for a year), We were separated from everyone, family, friends.

My mother told me that her and my dad were separated at the time of the affair because though she begged my father to get help for their relationship he had refused. Since then my mothers had a string of men in and out of our lives, She would always remind how badly my father treated her and told me to remember what he's really like, so i never really connected with him. Although he was never physically violent, (unlike her lovers which followed) He was emotionally distant.

My sister recently told me the truth was that , my parents were not separated, my dad had been working to support us and her whilst she was taken in and out of hospital, she had an affair with a nurse. all this time she blamed him, and it was her all along, she's manipulated me for years.

Every mistake she made i let it go, i gave up school to help look after my brother, He is sick now. I confronted my dad and he told me everything. I'm staying at his , till my mum finds a place, but he's said i can stay there full time. I don't want to see her. She's always lied to me , i'm afraid she'll just do the same when i confront her.

I hate depending on them, but she'll left me with no money and no home.
I just wanna escape everything..

[Rose3]

Are you ok then to stay with your dad for the time being? Maybe at his place you can experience peacefulness, and then consider how you would like to organize your life, in order to look after your best interests. With time and space for you to consider what is important and valuable in your life, hopefully you will find the strength that is in you, to experience some balance in your life. And maybe too - to experience being cared for, appreciated. And then eventually to figure out what's happened concerning you and your mother - but not to allow her issues to disrupt your life and future. Hoping for you.

[curley]

Hi Virtual. It must really hurt find that your mother has lied to you so many times. Sounds like she does not like herself or the things she does , that is the only reason I see for her to lie to you.
I think you are right to stay with your dad. If you feel comfortable with your dad stay there. Find out what you want to do with your life and move forward. Now that you know the truth try to put it behind you. Go back to school and do what feels good for you!!