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Mar 07, 2014, 10:48 PM
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My boyfriend just left to go out with his friends while I was crying. It hurts that I don't have anyone to talk to, and he won't listen. I've had a rough week, and an especially rough day. I need to talk to someone, but there's no one here. It's just me, my dogs, and my hermit crabs.
The worst part is that he leaves while I'm crying my eyes out. I never ask him to stay. Why can't he just make that decision on his own? Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk |
 Alone & confused, Anonymous100115, Anonymous33450, CaptainChaos79, redbandit, SoupDragon, Truthseeker14
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#2
Mar 07, 2014, 11:55 PM
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D: that. That is not nice at ALL!! What in the world? If I was in a relationship and I was crying and they decided to leave without at least checking to make sure that I was alright and was going to stop crying soon they would be one girlfriend less immediately.
 I'm sorry you have to go through that
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Mar 07, 2014, 11:57 PM
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I would leave in a heartbeat if I could. Currently fighting with the government over welfare and disability. Totally without an income. I've decided, however, to start sleeping on the couch.
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Mar 08, 2014, 12:28 AM
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He doesn't make the decision to stay because he chooses to leave instead. Its still a choice he's deliberately making.
Like the previous poster, the bf would be girlfriendless if it were me. I'm so sorry he's being such a cold jerk, you deserve so much better. Keep talking and venting here, we'll listen. 
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#5
Mar 08, 2014, 02:40 AM
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He came home just after midnight, woke me up, and went off on me for daring to come between him and his friends. He told me it's not fair to him to give up going out for even one night just because I'm upset about something. What a ****. You'd think that, by 57, he would have learned something.
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#6
Mar 08, 2014, 03:56 AM
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Well clearly he has spent his life successfully learning nothing about relationships.
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DXD BP1, BPD & OCPD "The best way to make it through with hearts and wrists in tact, is to realise, two out of three aint bad" FOB...
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Mar 08, 2014, 03:57 AM
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Yeah. Four marriages down the drain. Big red flag I chose to overlook.
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Mar 08, 2014, 05:14 AM
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Sometimes we are able to see hope in the hopeless. Don't beat yourself up about it
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DXD BP1, BPD & OCPD "The best way to make it through with hearts and wrists in tact, is to realise, two out of three aint bad" FOB...
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#9
Mar 08, 2014, 05:20 AM
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l went through this with my ex and remember how painful it was. Hugs to you. Soup.
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Mar 08, 2014, 08:41 AM
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I don't understand how a bf could do that but I've been there too. I always excuse it saying that he just doesn't know how to deal with it so he walks away. Meanwhile your left alone to cry your eyes out.
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Mar 08, 2014, 11:57 AM
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Yep. Sounds familiar. I'm vindictive though, and I always pay it forward! Maybe not the best advice, but I wait until HE needs me for something, & then I conveniently find "something better to do" & blow HIM off! But that's just me. I'm sorry for what you're going through!
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#12
Mar 08, 2014, 03:18 PM
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This morning he ignored me for a couple hours then finally asked if I wanted to talk. I told him we'd talked last night, and I'd heard everything I needed to know. More silence for the rest of the day.
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Mar 08, 2014, 04:10 PM
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Sounds like u need a new boyfriend or none at all for all the good he is.
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#14
Mar 09, 2014, 11:34 PM
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Maybe those dogs are better friends to you than this bf is. If this is something that he does repeatedly, then that is what you can expect. On the other hand, if you have a tendency to cry a lot, then he may feel that you are going to get weepy often, regardless of what he does. If emotional support when you feel needy is important to you, he may just be the wrong guy to be depending on.
I settled for a guy who does that to me. It doesn't get better with time. Insensitive guys don't suddenly change. |
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Mar 09, 2014, 11:47 PM
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I think everyone here agrees that you deserve so much better. I'm sorry you're having to go through this.
And Trippin is right, there was no way you could've predicted this behavior. And if you could have, it may not have necessarily been bad enough that you felt something was up.
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