[ReneeDawn]

Alright, I have a bit of a long story, just warning you!

Ok, so my husband and I live about 500 miles away. Last time we visited home, my car broke down so I left it there and took my moms. Apparently, my mom wanted me to keep her car and she keep mine. I was hesitant at first because her car is a lot, A LOT older and had many problems before. But then I was like, "why not?".

First mistake, I did not consult my husband on this and he was furious about it because he does not like the car (for safety) and did not want to put money in it. So, I called my mom and told her that we changed our minds and want to switch cars back. She could fix and we'd pay for it.

However, my mom decided to give my car to my uncle who's been down on his luck lately. Yep, my car, that I still own the title too, is being driven by my uncle who more than likely does not have insurance. This pissed my husband off even more! On top of that, my moms car just blew up on me! The coolant tube thing is cracked or something and it leeks and smokes when I turn it on.

Now we are in an even bigger pickle. My mom and uncle have agreed to exchange cars but they want us to fix her car. My husband does not want to fix it because it's not ours and he feels it's unfair that we have to pay for my moms car a swell as reimburse my uncle for fixing my car.

My husband has decided that he's either going to 1. Get a trailer and take to car back to my moms to let them deal with it. 2. Junk it and give them the money for it or 3. If they refuse to work with him, he's going to report it stolen!

I really do not want it to go this way. I'm the middle man to this whole situation but anything I say is completely ignored. I'd rather fix the darn thing and get it over with, but my husband simply refuses.

My mom and husband never got along. Ever since we dated there's been a heavy feeling around these two. I'm so afraid this is going to ruin our relationships and won't be able to talk to my mom with out her being seriously mad at me about this. It's ridiculous and this should be simple. But they are both too stubborn to work something out. I don't know what to do, I don't want to deal with this anymore! I put my foot down and told them both that they need to talk to each other rather than through me, but the refuse to do that as well. This sucks! What should I do?!

[spondiferous]

Hi ReneeDawn. I see this was posted quite awhile ago but, on the off chance that this issue is still ongoing, I'll throw in my two cents. It sounds to me like perhaps your husband has a point. Your mom took advantage in this situation, and also took liberties that weren't hers to take by handing your car over to your uncle. And I think that no matter what happens someone is going to be hurt (either your mom or your husband, possibly your uncle, and definitely you). Your husband has every right to feel the way he feels, in my opinion. And you have no obligation to fix your mother's car. It's her car. It's one thing if she had been honest about that up front and just asked for it. But she didn't. And that's not your problem. It's also not your problem that your uncle was going through a difficult time...it's unfortunate, but not your fault. They acted without your consent.

What should you do? I don't know. But Your husband has offered three great suggestions.

Hope this helps. Again, just my opinion. Too bad there aren't more here to consider, but hopefully you've got it all straightened out by now. Good luck.