[Danny 123456]

Hey guys it's been some time, just gonna put this in a but shell: I'm with a girl have been for around 7 months known her for 14 months, I used to be the one that chased her and wanted to move in and move away to her place 70 miles away. Everything was going great BUT then she turned really horrible she nearly had cancer and was diagnosed with depression and she was REALLY mean to me made me cry and feel really low. Over Christmas something changed I just don't feel the same about her I feel trapped when down at her place and I'm now treating her bad, it's like anything little she does wrong I go MAD and really moody, I've give her so many chances and she just gets cocky when her confidence is back. I try and finish it and she rings and rings me 39 missed calls in an hour and 17 messages.... I don't feel the same with sex or ANYTHING I look forward to going home when with her.... I just dunno what to do. I miss her now in home?!? So confused!

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I understand this situation you are in, or at least similar. The thing with 'giving chances' is that if the bad behaviour is repeated it tells your partner that she always gets anther chance. She is not taking you seriously. She will push the limits in outbursts to show how her own frustration in life are hers to bear. Loved ones are so easy to target as loved ones react emotionally. Does she want help to a better well-being? Does she say she wishes she was different? This is the only way you can help her I am afraid. If not then I feel you will go through more heartache. These are your foundations in this relatively young relationship and these are what you are building on. Depression is tough and I have had it for a long time and resulted in a nervous breakdown last year. I became inward and it because of my past. My partner is supportive and this is how I have come through it. However, if my partner was not supportive then I would have been better without a relationship. I knew my depression was not healthy but I also desperately wanted to be better. It was my circumstances in my life at that moment in time that were the problem. i was still living in the town that held years of a bad past of abuse shown on me . My house is about to sell and I know moving is the answer.... I am not running away as I have come to terms with the cause of my depression. It has waves now and again but medication was not the answer, simply a change of environment. I am 44