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Mar 22, 2014, 08:21 AM
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I'm taking a 16 week gardening course with about 25 people. I am shy so during class breaks, when other people are talking to each other, I tend to stay on the sidelines. I'm working on being more proactive at making small talk, but it's a process.
We were given a contact sheet that includes email addresses. Is it weird to email people from the class? I emailed one person to ask for a recipe and she sent me a long reply... and then avoided me at the next class! I want to forward someone else some articles about something they asked about in class, but now I'm worried it's inappropriate. I wouldn't think anything of someone emailing me, but maybe it's more appropriate to bring things up in person? TL; DR: Is it weird to email classmates you haven't talked to that much? Last edited by hvert; Mar 22, 2014 at 08:21 AM. Reason: Forgot to add sentence |
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Mar 22, 2014, 10:20 AM
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Hvert, I don't see anything "wrong" with e-mailing folks from the class. If they didn't want people to contact them they would not have provided their contact info. It might be a way for you to start to get to know people so you can approach them during breaks at class.
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Mar 22, 2014, 12:58 PM
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I agree with Lizardlady - if I didn't want someone to have my email address I wouldn't put it on the contact sheet. Maybe the woman you emailed about the recipe was having an off day ... I've been certain someone was angry with me, didn't like me, avoiding me, etc. ... only to find out later that something was going on in their lives that had them preoccupied.
If you are trying to expand your social circle and skills, the only thing that I would recommend is to go slow and give credit to yourself when you face the fear and do something new in the name of personal growth. 
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Mar 22, 2014, 02:52 PM
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You never know, by emailing someone who seemed cool in class they might turn out to be a nice person. I wouldn't have too high of expectations or get my hopes up about leaving the class with a friend, but consider this experience practice for making small talk and learning about people.
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Mar 23, 2014, 06:23 AM
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Thank you all for the feedback! I was hoping that by emailing people, it would sort of break the ice for me. That one experience really weirded me out.
I wish there was a class for social interactions! Starting conversations is SO HARD. |
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