Anxiety ruining my relationship

I've been through a divorce that had infidelity. I'm in a relationship with someone much younger than me, and my anxiety and panic is ruining it.
He got scared a few weeks ago thinking I wnated to get married right away but he was so upset without me that he wanted to work it out. We've been together 8 months. I am so anxious and scared to be left that it is creating problems. Any advice?

thanks so much.

it is going to take a lot of positive self talk reminding yourself that this is not the old relationship to keep you balanced. hopefully he is supportive. welcome to psych central. you will find that we have several forums where you can post about your concerns and receive feedback from other members. you will get a lot of support here. again, welcome

You need to get over your fear of being alone and independent. Whether you do that while in a relationship or not is up to you but that's what needs to happen. when you realize you can do it alone, and survive, you will be more apt to be in a relationship by choice rather than need, as in being afraid of being alone. That is only going to make you clingy and anxious as you have experienced.

Truth is the best solution to this is to actually go it alone for awhile but as you already have someone in your life you'll have to find a way to get over these fears while you are in a relationship. A T comes to mind.