[tsmith88]

I have had an argument with my mother and I feel bad about it... basically she went to work for 9 hours today, her job is not physically demanding for the most part, it;s in home health care I do the same thing myself occasionally it can be emotionally draining but overall it's an easy job....

So for 20 or so years one bedroom in our house has been 'The Junk Room' stuff stacked clear to the ceiling probably 30 big plastic totes of clothes and just stuff that fit no one, are out of syle, expired, ect. just all sort of junk really. So the other day my mother and I went to the hardware store and bought paint and flooring for the junk room - which is actually supposed to be a guestroom/ office/dad's room for showing off all of his collectables he's acquired all these years.

This stuff is my parents stuff in the junk room, I have very little in there and what I do have I removed to my own bedroom today and then started sorting with my dad his stuff....

Problem being soon as mom came home she went to bed and 8:30pm rolls around and she is still asleep. The day before she had assured me that she would help me today AND I received absolutely no help from her. Not only that but at some point it became *I* had to make dinner also.

I wouldn't be on disability if I could work a full time job and handle a days stress... Yet my mom thinks just because I'm AT HOME I should spend my entire day cooking and cleaning the house and just doesn't get that her constant "Do This Before I get home" lists are completely stressing/freaking me out. I get the feeling that she looks down on me, and is just using me for whatever she can get.

[Hellion]

While I don't have that exact situation, I do sometimes feel like peoples demands for me get a bit too high at times...its like they forget the reason I am at home not working is because of having mental problems significant enough to cause disability. Not sure how your family gets along, but maybe you just need to sit them down and talk to them about this...explain you are disabled and have difficulties day to day and can only help out around the house so much. Like yesterday I got in a bit of an argument with my mom thinking I wasn't doing enough around the house, and I told her it was because I felt really overwhelmed like everyone expected me to keep the whole house clean and watch the dish sink like a hawk to make sure all dishes get in the dishwasher or are immediatly washed so it was getting very difficult to know even where to begin with any cleaning tasks.

But we came to the conclusion I could do the floors once a week or at least close to that I don't think it will be the end of the world if I missed a week and help with the dishes if needed...So yeah maybe talking to your parents would help, it could be they don't realize they are kind of taking advantage...then again some peoples families aren't reasonable so I cannot garantee such a discussion would go anywhere useful.

[gayleggg]

Sound like you need to talk to your mother about her expectations and your feeling. Let her know how stressful it is for you. You may have to take her to a therapy session with you to have the therapist help negociate an understanding of your illness. Best Wishes.