[razeljenny]

I had a friend that was in some d.V. relationships and escaped alive. She decided to committ to no one quickly. She became too choosey. She figured that the powers that be would protect her from the harm of jelous mates. It did protect her, and eventually she "might" decide on one special someone, but dosen really want to do that in her heart really. Although she feels compelled to select a someone she isn't ready to buckle down and honestly dosen't think she has enough to give full time to any man. She asked me to see what there is to do about it here at the board. Can she keep on going this way? Is she safe do you think? She feelss very safe and slowly decided to just be with one more and more and distance from others, but still so truly the others keep entertaining her and her existance becomes a merry-go-round. It isn't too dizzy but still it sure is one. Maybe life is a merry-go-round anyhow any way that you slice it no matter what. Is life that way anyhow? She is a beautiful person and doing well in all of the areas, it justs seems weird to me that she is doing things in such a uncustomary fashion.

[razeljenny]

well I toppled over kids, I have made a final decision and it is to start a steady relationship with one man and I like him most-est. I told the other two, that I was going steady now and stepping down from the merry-go-round for real rounds with one whom I wish to treat as a special someone and feels good that I was real choicey about making decisions about whom I want to share small spaces with and keep close to me for lengths of time for more than five dates. You know someone that you routinely go to the cafe with for breakfast and stay out late with taking walks or eating meals at one oclock in the morning at "Sharis" Same person that you play game after game of "Rummy" with. Same person that you do the wash with. Same person that you smell the good bad and ugly as well. Well I was choicey with the man choice for this once in time. I have all the respect from Johnny and all of the respect from Larry, but they now know that I stand tall in a beginning more exclusive relationship with L.Y. now and it makes me glad I was choicey. Bravo Bravo Bravo Namaste Robin

[desirae]

It hard to adjust back but with time and patience she will eventually learn to trust again. It is alright to be choosey to an extent, but to assume or pass judgements to quickly could possibly cause her to pass up a great guy. Then again if she does meet a guy and he understands that she needs time and a slow transition then he would be worth getting to know.

[razeljenny]

Update on myself- friend-

Still singly with the chosen man. Making that imformed choice made me grounded. I felt like since I participated in the so called shopping for "the good compatable one," I am will to value, respect and like myself, my decisions and "him" since I payed for it so to speak by dating a bunch of guys and carefully feeling my feeling from A to Z. I was so decisive that I am so much sure of myself for respecting "Choosiness"

I really really respect choosiness like never before and want my friends to decide it is awesome. I think it is truly awesome.

A story:

Larry respects me, I kicked him to the curb.

John respects me. I kicked him to the curb.

James respects me and I kicked him to the curb.

The man I am with who I "Chose" allows me to hang with Larry or John or James, because he was told by me that I chose him and he is so assured by that that I am allowed to keep Larry and John and James for just friends.

So I want to update you on things and say Merry Christmas to everyone. Namestae