[chelsea89]

My husband and I have been together for 10 years and married for five. We've been through alot of financial stress lately and our children are in the custody of the state because we have a lack of support and our Asperger's/ADHD son was biting himself and came into school covered in bruises/in shirts with holes in them because to keep him from biting holes in them was impossible and we couldn't afford to buy him new shirts all the time. No one wanted to think there was anything more to his issues than a dysfunctional family or parenting issues, both of which couldn't have been further from the truth, which is why we are very close to getting them back. I know that this is stressful and compounded by the fact that I also have Asperger's syndrome.
Lately though it seems as though I can do NOTHING right, a far cry from simple miscommunication and sensory issues interfering with intimacy and other relational aspects. I know it's difficult for him to handle everything, but at the same time everyday life without the additional stressors can be overwhelming for me. We live in Las Vegas and I like to go to the casino with $5 or so and gamble penny keno from time to time. Since we've been going together he's spent a fair amount of money and it's become an almost everyday event. He won't help out in the house at all, complains if he gets bored for 2 seconds and wants to leave, he spends more money than a family of five on food for himself, and gets pissy when his eating habits can't be supported by our one minimum wage income. He spent a literal $40 on sandwich items and ate 4 at a time, our food budget is only $200 a month as is. Today we got to take our son out for two hours and I was excited and left a little early. We got there 30 minutes early and our son showed up 15 minutes early so we were only waiting 15 minutes, but that didn't stop him from complaining the whole 15 minutes we sat waiting or from correcting me when we brought him back because we were right on time leaving when he suggested. Then we asked our son if he would rather go to the park or to our house, he wanted to come home for a while. The drive alone cuts out about 30 minutes of the 2 hours, but we spent a good hour at the house and had a nice dialogue during the drive. But again it was my fault our visit was cut short and he wanted more time to be with his son, and it would have been better to go to the park (despite not having water and the fact that our son would be bouncing around outside instead of sitting and eating with us/having some quality time together). Then we go drop him off and the foster mother was talking about taking our son to SeaWorld one weekend and about his therapy and medication options, how he was doing in school and day to day. It gave us another hour with our son, but on the drive back home my husband yet again was displeased with me, this time I talked too much. He asked where I wanted to go. I just wanted to go sit at home and ruminate in the time I had with my son. He wanted to go to the casino with our last $7 and said he would drop me off. I was pretty annoyed at this point and said, "Why? So you can lose the last of our money?" So we ended up coming home and he slept for a few hours after another lecture on how I never listen to him blah blah blah.
This isn't a one time incident or just a passing bad day for him. This is everyday! And when me "not listening" or "being too talkative" isn't enough to make me feel like ****, he goes onto using sarcasm overtly, which he knows I can't grasp, or he teases me, which I can't stand due to having Asperger's syndrome, and he knows this. I can't take this anymore, I'm not always wrong! Why is he so pissy all the time anymore?

[hvert]

Have you guys tried marriage counseling? Do you still want to stay in this relationship?