[hurting__]

It's almost been two weeks since our four year relationship came to an end...he was a lying, cheating, abusive asshole who treated me badly...but why do I still love him? I just want him back so I can get back into my comfort zone and feel some kind of happy again..I'm sick of crying and hurting and I just don't know what to do How do I make this pain stop? Because it hurts way too much....

[yumi]

Give yourself permission to take a break from relationships for a while. Learn to be OK alone. After some time you should be ready to find someone worthy of having you in their life. You are precious and deserve to be with someone who thinks you are precious.

[Rose76]

Time can make that hurt go away, but it may take a while. The less you see of him, the sooner time will work its magic.

When you get involved with someone new, as you most likely will, eventually, you will be surprised at how you start to forget this guy. Sorry you feel so bad, but it's not really abnormal, even for a guy who didn't treat you well. You'll find yourself remembering the few good things.

[hurting__]

Allow yourself to grieve but know that in time the hurt will lessen and you will find that you are ok afterall. Its some of the worst pain to go through but it will end. You are valuable and there will come a man who will recognize your value and treat you as such. (((biggest)))

[SeekerOfLife]

allow yourself to grieve. You were not treated with respect. Try to have peace and rest in your heart.

Don't expect it to be easy to get over someone you actually loved. That just is not something that happens quickly or effortlessly. Accept that it's going to hurt for awhile no matter what they did to mess things up and find ways to cope with the fact that there will be pain in your life for a bit. As others have said, it's going to take time... it does get better, I promise you. Been there enough times, and life does get better after break ups