[seeker1950]

I know this could also go in the dreams threads here, but it also points to my history of relationships with men, and my lifelong resentment toward my dad in how I evolved in romantic relationships.
My dad never was much of a presence in my growing up, other than to insist on my going to church. I actually joined church during a revival one time in my adolescence in order to gain his approval. Other than that, he never talked to me, hugged me or told me he loved me.
My history with men, which I'm now able to view in retrospect, has been one of seeking approval, mostly thru sex, since I felt I offered no value or attraction to men beyond that. This, despite a very rigid upbringing to avoid sex.
Anyway, to make a long story short, my dream last night, was vivid! All I remember of it is that my dad said to me clearly, "Men value being with you." Upon his saying this we hugged, and I clung to him for a long time in the dream. He would never have said this to me in life, nor given me a long hug allowing me to cling to him. It was very heartwarming and it woke me up. I rarely remember my dreams, but this one I did.
My feeling, may sound kind of crazy, is that our deceased loved ones may speak to us at times. On the other hand, one could interpret it as a long held
to have had that kind of parental contact.
Just sharing, because I feel good about it!

[Perna]

I love those kinds of dreams but I'm still trying to figure out mine with Elton John urgently telling me, "Don't you know? There are no fences in San Francisco!" I had it during therapy and the last time I saw my mother alive was in San Francisco when I was 3 so I'm still trying to get some "meaning" out of the "no fences" (this was after he/Elton John used a machine gun to "cut down" a fence between where we were standing and a house next door).

Funny how dreams can change things for us like that. I had one that literally changed my life in the early 1980s. Glad you had such a good one about your father; my stepsister had a similar one about her grandmother just after she died, came and sat on the end of her bed, etc. and she woke at peace.