[BubonicPlague]

I just got asked out on a date at school by a boy that I'm friends with.

It happened when I decided to bring up about dating and I asked if he ever dated. Then he asked me and I told him that I've never dated or had a boyfriend.

The thing is though, I've been wanting him to ask me out since he's been hanging out alone with me for a while.

He even told me I was pretty and that he liked me.

So after I told him, he asked me for my phone number and that's how I got him to ask.

I feel bad though that I felt like I had to talk him into it.

Also, he doesn't entirely like me. When he talked to me yesterday, he was talking about a girl he's "obsessed" with and how he wants to see her when she moves closer to where he lives.

I feel let down, because I really wanted to find someone I can LOVE. I'm getting sick and tired of chasing after spiritual beings, I want someone who is human.

Yet the problem is, I'm afraid I'll fail to impress him if I ever do become his girlfriend.

[Stronger]

That's exciting that you are going on a date with him though!
He wouldn't have asked you if there wasn't some part of him (not you) that wanted to ask you.

Don't ever change yourself for someone else. If some guy doesn't love you for you, then he is not worth having around anyway. I have a hard time with that one too, so don't worry, you're not alone.

I hope that you guys have a great time on your date!

[curley]

I think it is exciting to go on a first date! Do not feel like you talked him into asking you out.
I think it is strange of him to talk about another girl unless it is just a casual comment. If he does then maybe you could remind him he is with you...or dont go out with him again.
If this is your first date, you have lots of years to meet someone "human" as you put it!
You deserve to have someone who is interested in and cares about you...anyone who is not interested or does not care about you, is not worth your time!

[mycatsmokes]

Originally Posted by BubonicPlague

I just got asked out on a date at school by a boy that I'm friends with.

It happened when I decided to bring up about dating and I asked if he ever dated. Then he asked me and I told him that I've never dated or had a boyfriend.

The thing is though, I've been wanting him to ask me out since he's been hanging out alone with me for a while.

He even told me I was pretty and that he liked me.

So after I told him, he asked me for my phone number and that's how I got him to ask.

I feel bad though that I felt like I had to talk him into it.

Also, he doesn't entirely like me. When he talked to me yesterday, he was talking about a girl he's "obsessed" with and how he wants to see her when she moves closer to where he lives.

I feel let down, because I really wanted to find someone I can LOVE. I'm getting sick and tired of chasing after spiritual beings, I want someone who is human.

Yet the problem is, I'm afraid I'll fail to impress him if I ever do become his girlfriend.

Having been a teenage boy once, I can shed some light on this.

First of all, he is a teenage boy. Asking a girl out is THE most terrifying thing he can do. Really. So he is probably very thankful that you gave him a little helpful with that. It doesn't mean that he doesn't like you.

Second, a teenage boy has NO experience with girls or women yet. He is making it up as he goes along; fliying by the seat of his pants. He has not yet learned that talking about other girls he may or may not like is not the smoothest move when trying to woo a lady. My guess is that he's trying to play it cool; trying to make himself not look like he's actually head over heels for you. Maybe he isn't head over heels, but he could be. I think he may be playing a game with you. A dumb teenage boy game, but a game nonetheless.

Third, never, ever think that you have to impress a date or someone you're romantically interested in. Sure, comb your hair and brush your teeth before you go out with him, but be yourself. It's up to him to find that special something he's looking for in you. Maybe he will find it, and I hope he does. But maybe he won't, and that's ok too. If you think about it, you're not going to settle for the first person who comes along. You're therefore going to reject (nicely, I hope!) a lot of men who are interested in you, and it's ok. Likewise, some men that you are interested won't be interested in you. And some will. It's just the law of averages.

So just relax, have fun, and see what happens!