[rolan86]

There is a girl on campus who I have been trying to meet for the longest time I only get to see her in passing. She is so beautiful I make the extra effort to get to class early just so I can see her. One day I am just hoping she drops her pencil or something so I have an excuse to go up to her... Has anyone else ever had a situation like this? Where you are mystified by someone but really don't think you will ever have a chance to talk to them? Especially in passing.

[atomicc]

Yeah I've experienced it. Infatuation , my friend !

[twist293]

This is actually how I met my girlfriend lol. Don't be hesitant about it - just walk up and say hey to her. You don't have to pour out your emotions the first five seconds you talk to her, but just say hey to her. Start up a conversation. Let her know you exist. Then go from there and get to know her etc.

[rolan86]

The thing that is so frustrating about this is that I don't even get the opportunity to say hi to her. She leaves her class, I'm usually waiting outside the door waiting for the class after, and then bam. swarms of students walk out, and I get only a short glimpse of her walking by. I savor that glimpse so and watch her till she goes out of site. Maybe I can time it better, like walk to class 10 minutes early or something so that I would be walking to class as she would be walking towards me? I am just desperate for eye contact so I can at least smile at her!!

[LaborIntensive]

My thing is to walk past and very confidently comment on on article of clothing. Make a good grin and smile as you pass while still looking at her. You can somewhat gauge the response from that. Try it again another day but be careful you don't stand out as creepy or stalking as this will destroy any chance to even get a coffee someday with her!

[rolan86]

That's what I'm confused about! What would come across as creepy or stalky? Where do you draw the line?

[LaborIntensive]

Doing this as you look at her. Be sure to smile and make a good positive glance!

[rolan86]

Well know I just feel great... I was walking home from school today, and then I see that girl walking straight towards me. She was with two other friends and engaged with them in conversation. That intimidated me, and the anticipation of her coming towards me had me shaking. Still I looked up to smile at her when she passed by, but she looked the other way as she walked right past me. I don't know how I could have changed that. I was just too nervous and didn't know how to react... I feel terrible now... Maybe if she were by herself I would have said hi, but I just get really intimidated when the person is with other people.

[LaborIntensive]

Ahhh...young love! TO be 20 something again' No worries, tomorrow is another day. Think about something school related. Maybe an upcoming party. Do you know anyone who knows her perhaps?

[Stirobi]

Originally Posted by rolan86

Well know I just feel great... I was walking home from school today, and then I see that girl walking straight towards me. She was with two other friends and engaged with them in conversation. That intimidated me, and the anticipation of her coming towards me had me shaking. Still I looked up to smile at her when she passed by, but she looked the other way as she walked right past me. I don't know how I could have changed that. I was just too nervous and didn't know how to react... I feel terrible now... Maybe if she were by herself I would have said hi, but I just get really intimidated when the person is with other people.

Same thing happened to me at University...i couldn't take my eyes of this girl but could not go and say hi because i was to shy and afraid of being rejected... Or she was with freinds and that was way to intimidating.. Then one day it happened (cause one day it has to happen!) , i said hi and she spoke to me...it was the worst discussion i ever had with someone... I blushed so red and started sweating.. didnt even remember what i said! I was devastated thinking i blew it! How could I be so bad at this..end result we slowly started dating shortly after for 3-4 months... Long distance separated us being young and all it wasnt meant to be... But the joy of winning my fear and especially dating her is a highlight of my younger years.. I'll tell you this young man... being shy or afraid is normal especially if you are honest in the way you are and act... Some girls like the macho type but those girls dont interest me.. They go for money and fast cars.... youll be suprise how many girls like the simple honest kind...and usually those a the keepers, my type anyhow... Lol I wish i was your age again... I was shy but girls were always on my mind, i never got good at approaching girls but they always liked me afterwards... Good luck to you, be yourself and most of all enjoy your youth... Live life to the fullest and that means take some risks! Cheers

Originally Posted by rolan86

There is a girl on campus who I have been trying to meet for the longest time I only get to see her in passing. She is so beautiful I make the extra effort to get to class early just so I can see her. One day I am just hoping she drops her pencil or something so I have an excuse to go up to her... Has anyone else ever had a situation like this? Where you are mystified by someone but really don't think you will ever have a chance to talk to them? Especially in passing.

it's called "having a crush" and it's infatuation. If other people haven't experienced this I'd wonder about them

[rolan86]

thanks guys, I am just so confused. I am just so sick of my anxiety taking over my life. I tried going out to a party last night, but panicked and then left because I couldn't find anyone to talk to, and then felt like a loner creep, and just left. Not too mention, all the pretty girls there, but of course they were all talking to guys, and the ones that weren't, well for some reason my mind just can't logically process the concept of "just saying hi". As for the girl I see before class? I just don't know what to do anymore. School ends in 4 weeks, and that's it, done. graduated. no more college. I will have gone through college, not only a virgin, but never having even had a gf, or kissed anyone. Great. I want to just stop her and say hello, but my freaking anxiety always brings out the worst in me and pulls me back down...

[rolan86]

And so it happened again. I walk into class, and there she is. Sitting down about to leave as her class gets out. I walk over to the seat behind her, just hoping there will be some sort of interaction, but nothing. With all the rushing of everyone wanting to leave class, she just looks straight ahead and leaves, as I am sitting right behind her. I felt like such a creep, walking up to her just to sit behind her and watch. I had nothing to say, no conversation I could make out of the situation, just everyone wanting to leave. And there she went. I savored every moment of her beauty, and I suppose that's all it is going to be...