[SunshineGold03]

Hello All,
I am just updating the latest on my family situation. Since the last time I posted this message my dad, myself, and his wife had a HUGE blow out. I LOST IT! It started off rocky...when I started talking to him he was already raising his voice immediately after I said can we talk and then it escaltated from there. His wife intervened and started to give me a hard time sort of and her and I got into then my dad and I got into and then my husband and my dad got into.....IT GOT REALLY UGLY! This all took place outside my grandma's birthday party.....ugh! I yelled obscenities at my dad and his wife and they in kind.....without a doubt NOT one of my finest moments like I said I just LOST it. Well that happened like two weeks ago since that time I am pleased to say that my dad and I had a very long conversation that went well and we even had dinner together it was nice. I proceeded to apologize to his wife because I went way over the top with the obscentities and my dad apologized, well sort of, to my husband, well more like he just shook his hand but for my dad thats huge. Anyway, things are better between us and hope they stay that way for a little while. Thanks for listening to me blab on and misspell words.

Jennifer

Jennifer

[WendyE]

Hello Jennifer,

I'm glad you guys were able to talk after that BIG blow out. It wasn't to long after it either and that's good to hear. It seems like the longer you wait to talk the harder it is. I don't know what started it and what it was about because I'm new here and I need to look back to see what was in your other post. I just wanted to tell you that it takes alot to talk after you have such a big fight with someone you love. EXPECIALLY when you love them. Good for all of you for being able to find it in your heart to do that. It hurts so bad when we fight that way with the people we love. There has been some of that in my family through the years. I've had to watch my mom and her mother part ways because 18 years ago they got into a fight, I was only 17 at the time, and my mom told her own mother and father to get out and that they were never welcome again. Believe it or not, and I have a hard time believing it, they haven't spoken in 17 years. Also, my mom hasn't spoken to her only other sibbling, her brother, in almost 25 years. He also hasn't spoken to his parents in 25 years. At 17 I watched my whole family fall apart before my eyes. It made a big impression on me. The one thing I vowed to myself is that NOTHING is more important than the people you love or the people that love you and NOTHING was ever going to make me go to that kind of place in my mind and heart that they went. Life is way to short to allow anything to come in between you and the people that have loved you all of your life. Granted, I don't know your situation at all but it sounds like you love your father so I'm glad to hear that you and he are still trying. I wish my family was. Oh, I still have contact with my grandma, her mother. I was old enough and out of the house to be able to make that decition on my own luckily. My Grandpa has since passed away. When my grandma needed her daughter most she wasn't there. I'm the only one my grandma has contact with. And if you knew my grandma, I'm the only one that will put up with her. HA HA She's hard to deal with but I love her regardless.............She's my grandma. I'm proud of you for working things out. When we leave this world, the only thing that REALLY matters is the ones we loved and who loved us. Hang in there. It's worth it in the end even tho it so hard on us at times.

Love,
Wendy