[BubonicPlague]

I just got a call a few minutes ago from my mom and she wasn't happy with me. I was part of a crime back in 2001, that ended up with the state picking up the rest of the coverage of all of my future medical bills stemming from the crime case (which was a very nice thing for them to do). They will only pay if it has to do with the physical or psychological issues I have because of the crime case. My mom called to tell me that the state of Utah (the state that helps out with our medical bill coverage) said that they will not be paying for my recent stay at a residential treatment center because they were saying that it wasn't because I had PTSD (from the crime), but because I was fighting with my mom.

I was fighting with my mom horribly at the time, and it stressed me out so bad that it added on to my anxiety and landed me in the psychiatric hospital.

Apparently, I told the doctors at the residential treatment center my mom was abusive to me (she was emotionally abusive towards me), that she was bipolar (I don't remember saying this), and that her boyfriend beats her up (I definitely don't remember saying this). Mom was angry with me saying that it's on permanent record and that it makes her look like an unfit bad parent

The only right thing about that was that she was emotionally abusive towards me. She would always curse me out, and call me names such as "****ing retarded", and one day we got into an argument and she slammed into the wall saying, "I can hurt you." I did report her for it, and now she's saying that she didn't do that.

As for the other two statements, I don't recall saying that word for word. Her being "bipolar", I said that my grandpa (her father) had bipolar disorder, but I don't remember saying that my mom did. I can only guess that maybe I said she might have some sort of mental illness that I didn't know. I don't know what I said back then.

The "boyfriend beating her up" thing I think may have been confused with me telling the doctors that my biological father nearly beat her to death with a baseball bat (which was part of the crime). That I do remember telling them. I said that her last boyfriend got into a fight, but he never beat her.

The thing is, I'm starting think that the doctors reworded some of what was said, or they just didn't listen to me.

I told my dad this (my adoptive father that I live with), and he said I did tell them that my mom was bipolar. Maybe I didn't take this seriously I don't know, I don't think I agree with him.

I'm not sure what I said back then, but some of it to me sounds like the doctors reworded it when they took notes, I don't know.

But my mom is angry with me that they have to pay $12,000, and she wants me to read what I told the doctors as they took their notes (It feel s like I'm being punished like ,"Look at what you have done! Because of what you did, I have to pay/make up for it."

Well it is the truth. It feels like I'm being attacked by her, but then again, maybe I should feel bad for this.

My dad told me not to worry about the money and that both him and mom will work it out (they're divorced by the way). He's the only one who's not stressed about this, maybe he will be in the future.

This will probably lead it all to blame myself later, I know it will...

[Secretum]

I'm so sorry that you have to deal with that abuse. Emotional abuse can be just as damaging as any physical harm.

I see on your profile that you are 17? You'll be able to move out soon, maybe go to college. Then you can live your life the way you want to, surround yourself with people that build you up rather than tear you down.

And don't feel any shame about your hospital bill. You needed help and you got it. That was a very responsible thing to do, and it may have saved your life. Please don't feel shame over something you can't control.

[BubonicPlague]

Originally Posted by Secretum

I'm so sorry that you have to deal with that abuse. Emotional abuse can be just as damaging as any physical harm.

I see on your profile that you are 17? You'll be able to move out soon, maybe go to college. Then you can live your life the way you want to, surround yourself with people that build you up rather than tear you down.

And don't feel any shame about your hospital bill. You needed help and you got it. That was a very responsible thing to do, and it may have saved your life. Please don't feel shame over something you can't control.

No, I live with my dad. After my mom's last fight I moved in with him.

And my mom and I have stopped fighting, up until this.

[ChipperMonkey]

It sucks, but yes, as a minor, your parents have access to all of your medical records. Once you hit 18, though, they won't be able to see anything that goes into your medical records unless you sign a waiver. Until then, you're sort of stuck dealing with the fallout of anything in those records. Sorry