[PeaceKeeper93]

My guy friend and I are pretty close, his name is Jeremy. Jeremy though will act very jealous with other guys, like he either mocks, or gets disgusted, or insults the guys. Me and him drove by a restaurant and I said "I wonder if Derrik still works there?" He said "Derrick who?" I said "Oh I forget his last name, but he's friends with Tony A." He just looked at me disgusted and he sighed. He also said he didn't like my friends when he doesn't even know them, only some. When I had a crush on this one guy all he did was mock him and insult him. He does that about every guy I like I could go on and on about his jealousy. He even said to a guy one time "Back off dude she's MY girl" When we aren't even dating let alone in a sexual relationship.

Then the other day he asked me a weird question. He said to me in a serious tone "Hey Dana, do you see yourself having a kid or having kids in 2 years?" I said "Hell no! LOL! I will be 24 years old!" He was just silent. It was weird that he brought that up cause we weren't even talking anything remotely near the subject of kids. I mean he does have a daughter though she's almost 2. Never met her though, but he's always showing me videos of her.

What I don't get is the extreme jealousy and him asking that question? He doesn't really make an effort with me which is why I am kinda confused. Like he doesn't call me or text me often, he will though, but just not as much. So what do you think? Please give me your input, cause I am kinda confused! Thank you!

[Travelinglady]

Well, it seems to me like he wants to seriously be your boyfriend and is hoping you will somehow let him know that you want him as a boyfriend. And maybe he was thinking about wanting children with you? Maybe you should try to ask him why he is acting that way and why he asked that. Of course, he might not want to admit it if what I am saying is true, not wanting to ruin the friendship.

My two cent's worth, anyway.

[hvert]

Yeah, it sounds like he wants to date you but doesn't know how to go about doing it. If you aren't interested in him romantically, you may want to back away from this relationship for a while and let him cool off.

he needs to grow a pair and breach the subject of what is obviously his desire to be your bf. This roundabout jealousy is offputting for anyone and I'm guessing it's not going to affect you in a way that will attract you to him. He obviously doesn't have any idea or is afraid to say anything. Thing is though, it seems pretty obvious but I would probably recommend you thinking this over, even if you have thought about him that way yourself.

He isn't your bf and he is showing early signs of jealousy which usually is tied to nothing but trouble in the future. If he's jealous now, it's not going to go away in a relationship either, unless it is addressed directly and he gets ahold of this behavior. In a worst case scenario you'll end up with a possessive controlling bf if you went ahead with it.

I'm not saying he's all bad but that these are early warning signs of those things and you should be careful.

Either way, you need to address this problem directly. Whether or not he remains just a friend, becomes more than that or not, the jealousy and demeaning nature he shows toward other males in your circle, is not going to be a positive influence on your relationship regardless of what it becomes.

[PeaceKeeper93]

Originally Posted by Travelinglady

Well, it seems to me like he wants to seriously be your boyfriend and is hoping you will somehow let him know that you want him as a boyfriend. And maybe he was thinking about wanting children with you? Maybe you should try to ask him why he is acting that way and why he asked that. Of course, he might not want to admit it if what I am saying is true, not wanting to ruin the friendship.

My two cent's worth, anyway.

Yeah, I see what you mean! I kinda don't want to ask him though, because, I don't want to make things complicated. I don't want to ruin the friendship, cause I am unsure about him and I don't want to complicate things by asking him and then having him think I want something more, and then it will just be a big mess. I don't know yet if I want anything more with him. I am unsure. But that is why i am just trying to get other peoples opinions and take it from there. I think eventually when I am sure of what I want. I will bring it up to him. Thank you for commenting! I appreciate it!

[PeaceKeeper93]

Originally Posted by s4ndm4n2006

he needs to grow a pair and breach the subject of what is obviously his desire to be your bf. This roundabout jealousy is offputting for anyone and I'm guessing it's not going to affect you in a way that will attract you to him. He obviously doesn't have any idea or is afraid to say anything. Thing is though, it seems pretty obvious but I would probably recommend you thinking this over, even if you have thought about him that way yourself.

He isn't your bf and he is showing early signs of jealousy which usually is tied to nothing but trouble in the future. If he's jealous now, it's not going to go away in a relationship either, unless it is addressed directly and he gets ahold of this behavior. In a worst case scenario you'll end up with a possessive controlling bf if you went ahead with it.

I'm not saying he's all bad but that these are early warning signs of those things and you should be careful.

Either way, you need to address this problem directly. Whether or not he remains just a friend, becomes more than that or not, the jealousy and demeaning nature he shows toward other males in your circle, is not going to be a positive influence on your relationship regardless of what it becomes.

Yeah, good points! I don't know about him. His behavior kinda puts me off, but I do like him, so I am kinda in the middle. There are things he does that pisses me off in a way. Then I like him, so I am very confused. But yeah his jealousy and his boyfriend kind of attitude makes it hard for me to want to go further with him. Thank you though for commenting!

[HazelGirl]

But here's the deal. He has serious self-confidence issues. And he will be jealous and controlling in your relationship. Unless you're totally okay with getting rid of all your guy friends and never talking to another male again, I say make the guy take a hike. He's not good for you.

[healingme4me]

Originally Posted by HazelGirl

But here's the deal. He has serious self-confidence issues. And he will be jealous and controlling in your relationship. Unless you're totally okay with getting rid of all your guy friends and never talking to another male again, I say make the guy take a hike. He's not good for you.

I second this. Doesn't stop at guy friends, then there's nitpicking of female friends, especially if you have a typical female rift, then as a bf your bff will be demonized. And if you vent about family, forget about it.
These types, need more than the love of a woman can give...

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[Rose76]

It sounds like you have zero interest in romance with this guy. He has made it clear that he does have a romantic attachment to you. I think both of you are too old to be hanging around each other when you are not on the same page about what you want from each other. This kind of "friendship" has no future, IMHO. I think the two of you need to either agree to date in earnest, or go your separate ways. Keeping on the way you are is destined to lead to something ugly when one of you finds a real partner.

[ChipperMonkey]

I guess I'm confused why you would want a relationship with a jealous guy? Ok, say goodbye to all (and I do mean ALL) of your guy friends. Next step, stop talking to guys in public because it will just cause jealousy issues. Who needs that kind of drama?