[AngstyLady]

Ok, so I've been staying active, exercising. I cut back a bit hen I was real sick a bit ago. Then I got into it again in recent weeks (I had gone down to maybe once a week and am now back up to 3-4 times a week)
So this trainer guy saw me using a machine and asked me what I was going for- I said I heard it was good for your abs. He said actually its not and said he could show me a few exercises- so He did and then afterward he said that each membership comes with two free workout sessions with a trainer.
I scheduled them, did them, picked up some new exercises to add them to me repertoia. And at the end of the second session he was saying how he could give me a special rate buy even that would be too expensive. So I said maybe sometime down the line and he said something about how I could still check in with him (Ok, yeah, this was when it got weird, but I ignored that)
And so now I was just in the gym and he was all happy to see me and trying to chat me up about this detoxification thing tomorrow and I said maybe but probably not. I noticed he was still there after my workout (which is weird because he usually leaves before the time i had even arrived, again, weird).
We exchanged friendly goodbyes, and he wished me a nice evening as I left and walked past him- and I could tell that perhaps he liked me- I caught a female trainer giving him a supportive look right after our exchange as I was walking out.
Man, why cant people take interest out of pure niceness? I should've known from the get go he was interested in me. Actually, I sort of had an inkling as much, but I was just friendly and not flirty at all, as to not lead him on-
He's nice and all, but I have a boyfriend whom I love dearly-Ive never had a connection like this before-its unreal-amazing, I love him so much and he loves me a whole lot too . .enough about him . . .
I didn't feel the need to mention that I have one, because I didn't want to be that girl that puts that out there assuming a guy is only talking to her because they're interested in them, but in this instance perhaps I should have?
I guess I'm like a guy in this way, unless someone comes out and tells me something, I don't necessarily know. Yes, I know when people are mad/angry with me- but when it comes to these other things it can be a bit tricky.
Come to think of it there was this other really smiley customer at my other work that hasn't been around in recent months . . .
And I sort of liked him- and this was before I met my current bf-
Oh well, I guess it's all for the best. But damn, I think I'm a bit naive sometimes when it comes to these things- I'm partially socially retarded I think.

[waiting4]

Originally Posted by AngstyLady

Ok, so I've been staying active, exercising. I cut back a bit hen I was real sick a bit ago. Then I got into it again in recent weeks (I had gone down to maybe once a week and am now back up to 3-4 times a week)
So this trainer guy saw me using a machine and asked me what I was going for- I said I heard it was good for your abs. He said actually its not and said he could show me a few exercises- so He did and then afterward he said that each membership comes with two free workout sessions with a trainer.
I scheduled them, did them, picked up some new exercises to add them to me repertoia. And at the end of the second session he was saying how he could give me a special rate buy even that would be too expensive. So I said maybe sometime down the line and he said something about how I could still check in with him (Ok, yeah, this was when it got weird, but I ignored that)
And so now I was just in the gym and he was all happy to see me and trying to chat me up about this detoxification thing tomorrow and I said maybe but probably not. I noticed he was still there after my workout (which is weird because he usually leaves before the time i had even arrived, again, weird).
We exchanged friendly goodbyes, and he wished me a nice evening as I left and walked past him- and I could tell that perhaps he liked me- I caught a female trainer giving him a supportive look right after our exchange as I was walking out.
Man, why cant people take interest out of pure niceness? I should've known from the get go he was interested in me. Actually, I sort of had an inkling as much, but I was just friendly and not flirty at all, as to not lead him on-
He's nice and all, but I have a boyfriend whom I love dearly-Ive never had a connection like this before-its unreal-amazing, I love him so much and he loves me a whole lot too . .enough about him . . .
I didn't feel the need to mention that I have one, because I didn't want to be that girl that puts that out there assuming a guy is only talking to her because they're interested in them, but in this instance perhaps I should have?
I guess I'm like a guy in this way, unless someone comes out and tells me something, I don't necessarily know. Yes, I know when people are mad/angry with me- but when it comes to these other things it can be a bit tricky.
Come to think of it there was this other really smiley customer at my other work that hasn't been around in recent months . . .
And I sort of liked him- and this was before I met my current bf-
Oh well, I guess it's all for the best. But damn, I think I'm a bit naive sometimes when it comes to these things- I'm partially socially retarded I think.

Nah, don't be so hard on yourself. You actually were trying to give him the benefit of the doubt, and actually, if he hasn't outright asked you out, then it's all innuendo and subterfuge and you're still ok. You did the right thing, by not wanting to be 'that girl'...because it was a lose lose situation. If you brought up the bf, and this guy had hurt feelings he might have made it CLEAR he wasn't interested in you 'like that', making you feel the fool and him just awkward. And that goes for just 'mentioning' the bf, i.e. "I was just telling my bf the other day". I mean you COULD have, but the result would have been the same. If he's only just talking to you, maybe pushing to sell a product then you treat it as such. If he outright asks you out, then you can be diplomatic and it is less awkward for both of you.

"Oh, that is so flattering but I'm in a relationship. Thank you just the same."

End of. He leaves with his dignity in tact (cause you were 'flattered' even tho unavailable) and you avoid that awkward moment where you feel the need to try to guess if he's interested in you or just trying to sell a product.

Don't worry about it. BE flattered. He's a personal trainer and whether he's interested in you as gf material or just admires your dedication to working out, it's all good. Boundaries are easily set, and this time....can be very painless.

Take care

[ididwhat?]

...I guess I'm like a guy in this way, unless someone comes out and tells me something, I don't necessarily know.

Doesn't matter if you're a guy or a girl, if someone doesn't come out and tell us what's on their mind, none of us can know, for sure, what they may be thinking. We only THINK we know... you know?

I wouldn't worry about it unless he asks you out—then fill him in.